This past week I was asked to give a talk on family history. Not exactly a genealogy buff, I
decided to speak about something more in my comfort zone: literally writing my own family
history -- keeping a journal.
From an early moment in my mental illness journey, a counselor advised me to keep a journal.
Little did she know that I received my first journal as a 12-year-old from my Young Women
leader after her lesson on Wilford Woodruff and his diligent journal-writing.
Imagining myself in 80 years with journal volumes filling a library, I set to the task of writing in
my little journal. Soon the problem became clear. I had nothing to write.
One entry begins, "Dear piece of paper." The next reads, "Dear Lined Piece of Paper. The third
reads, "Dear flowered book of lined paper." You get the idea. When I was 12, writing didn't
thrill me. I did it anyway. Never in my wildest dreams did I conceptualize how my journals
would influence my life.
She began writing in a journal when she was a 12-year-old. These
journals span from 1987-2014. Photo by Sarah P. Hancock.
Brad Wilcox wrote about the values of journal-writing in his talk, Why write it? He argues that
there are six benefits resulting from journal writing: thinking, feeling, discovering, expanding the
mind, remembering and dreaming.
Watching TV, playing games or pursuing social media does not allow us to develop our own
thoughts and opinions. In my experience, writing has also allowed me to purge thoughts and
feelings, examine them and move on.
At times when I was really sick, the words I wrote were nothing more than hard-to-read, vile,
verbal vomit. Other times I actually arrived at a better mental place through the mere act of
scrawling sentiments.
I became pretty good at getting things out of my system via the quill and scroll. Thoughts that
bugged me, exited through the ink, warehoused for later. Sometimes I wrote things and shred
them, others I hid away in my journal boxes to be discovered later. They've now been
rediscovered and make so much more sense, now that I've safely passed through some trials.
Some people think they have nothing to say. To you, I would like to share something I learned as
a writing student at BYU. My professor, Dean Hughes, assigned students to write for 30 minutes
a day in addition to our writing assignments. If we had writer's block, he advised writing, "I have
nothing to say" until we thought of something else to say. The pen had to keep moving.
Another effective way to figure out what you're really trying to think or feel is to sit down at the
computer, turn off the screen and just type. If you stop typing to think, the train of thought
disappears over the horizon. Set a watch and keep typing; don't stop.
Wilcox talks about how people can learn from journal writing because it "reinforces the idea that
each person is important. His or her experiences and feelings are valuable and are worth
recording so they are not lost."
It reminds me of an activity I learned about from Martin Seligman. He calls it, "what went well
and why."
As I focused on writing what went well in my life, and why I thought it happened, I began seeing
more things that went well in my life. It was more than a simple gratitude list when I detailed
why I thought things went well.
Sometimes I believed they happened because God was watching out for me or because I found
the strength to do something. Soon I frequently saw Heavenly Father's hand guiding my life and
found myself stronger than I'd imagined. The more I wrote, the more I looked for things to write.
Helen Keller, who was both blind and deaf, once said: "I don't want to live in a hand-me-down world of others' experiences. I want to write about me, my discoveries, my fears,
my feelings, about me." When we write, we begin to discover our true self. I've
discovered that it's easier to figure out how to change myself after arriving at my own
conclusions about what needs to be changed. For me, positive change directly results
from journal writing. I agree with Wilcox when he says, "regular writing does make it
harder for us to remain passive [about life]."
President Spencer W. Kimball counseled, "Write … your goings and your comings, your
deeper thoughts, your achievements and your failures, your associations and your
triumphs, your impressions and your testimonies" (President Kimball Speaks Out [1981],
59).
Obviously keeping a journal serves as a helpful reminder. Granted, I don't always want to
remember what's happened, but I can say having a record of my life has helped me when I forgot
who I was and what I believed.
If I didn't have journals spanning the 27 years since I got my first one, my memory loss would
have swallowed 95% of what's happened to me. Riding the confused tailspin of self-rediscovery
could have had disastrous consequences. Instead I relied on my journals to know who I could
trust, effective strategies from my past and steer clear of that which hadn't worked.
Relationships are built on common memories. If you have no memory of the past, those
relationships dissolve like a sugar cube under hot water. You might not ever have memory loss,
but should it creep into your life as it has mine, you have journals full of memories with which to
reminisce.
Dreaming as I wrote in my journal mentally saved me on multiple occasions from the dire
circumstances in which I found myself. When surrounded by people who didn't believe in my
dreams of going to graduate school and obtain my masters, labeling them as grandiose, I turned
to my journal.
When no one believed in my potential (including myself), I wrote about my determination to
achieve my goals, solidifying in my mind the decision to attend school. I believe that had I not
written my dreams in my journals, over time my dreams could have easily deteriorated like a flag
in the sun.
Even if no one reads it, the process of writing a journal helps the writer move forward in life.
Writing in my journal helps me move forward in my recovery.
If you'll indulge me, I'd like to close with a quote from my journal. It's dated Sunday, September
13, 2009.
Sometimes I write in here because I feel like someone's actually interested and listening
to me when I do. Sometimes I feel like I'm opening myself up to my future family.
Sometimes I write to better understand myself and the way I think.
Sometimes I write in hopes that someday a child of mine will be able to feel that they
aren't alone and that they are understood by someone who loves them more than
anything. Sometimes I write because we've been commanded to keep a record of our
lives.
But whatever the reason, whatever the motivation, I'm glad I have; otherwise these past
10-15 years would have been forgotten like water under a bridge, never to be seen again
and completely gone with nothing to prove it was there but the slow deterioration of the
land around it. Do I need to explain what I mean?
Now I guess I'd better go follow my own advice. It's good for my mental health. Try it! There's
no telling what you will discover.
Sarah Price Hancock, a graduate of San Diego State University's rehabilitation
counseling Masters of Science program with a certificate psychiatric
rehabilitation.
Having embarked on her own journey with a mental health diagnosis, she is
passionate about psychiatric recovery. She enjoys working as a lector
for universities, training upcoming mental health professionals.
Sarah also enjoys sharing insights with peers working to strengthen
their "recovery toolbox." With proper support, Sarah
knows psychiatric recovery isn’t just possible — it’s
probable.
Born and raised in San Diego, California, Sarah served a Spanish-speaking
and ASL mission for the LDS Church in the Texas Dallas Mission. She
was graduated from Ricks College and BYU. Sarah currently resides in
San Diego and inherited four amazing children when she married the
man of her dreams in 2011. She loves writing, public speaking,
ceramics, jewelry-making and kite-flying — not necessarily in
that order.