"We seldom get into trouble when we speak softly. It is only when we raise our voices that the sparks fly and tiny molehills become great mountains of contention."
This
past week my van died. I was stuck on the side of the road. When I
turned the key, nothing happened. Not even a click. Nervous that I
wouldn’t have the money to fix it, I called my insurance
company and requested a tow. Sitting on the side of the road, I
wondered where on earth we would find the money to get the van fixed.
When
the roadside assistance arrived, he discovered that my battery was no
good. He jumped the van, sending me on my way, instructing me to not
turn off the van until I was sure that I could replace the battery.
I
drove it to a local warehouse from whom I’d bought the battery,
knowing they could fix it. When I pulled in, they informed me they
couldn’t replace the battery because they only fixed tires.
Those warehouse men were obstinate! I sat in the driveway,
incredulous and fuming.
I
called my dad. Dads can fix anything. He instructed me on how to
remove my battery. Only problem? I had no tools.
Frequently,
people with chronic mental illnesses encounter the same problem —
no tools. For that reason, part of creating a Wellness Recovery
Action Plan (WRAP), is creating a wellness toolbox full of tools; the
tools are a collection of coping skills.
Coping
skills are unique to each individual. The idea is, the more tools a
person has, the more capable he is to deal with a wide variety of
circumstances. Although you wouldn’t use a hammer to build a
bike, it would be the perfect tool for building a bookcase.
Wellness
tools can be used for two purposes: maintaining wellness and
regaining wellness. Writing down these coping skills allows people to
refer to the list when they need to regain wellness. Often times at
that critical juncture between wellness and mental unraveling
(decompensation), all conscious mental preparation flies out the
window in the face of symptoms.
First
people should brainstorm all the things they need to do on a daily
basis to maintain their wellness. It can also be things they like to
do or are interested in learning how to do. Additional tools allow
for a wider variety of adaptability.
As
I mentioned before, Wellness Tools are different for everyone. For
that reason, it’s great to create your WRAP Wellness Toolbox in
a group of peers because it allows people to brainstorm tools
together.
Let
me share with you some of mine.
Waking up at a specific time
Taking a shower
Eating breakfast
Prayer
Exercise
Wearing clean clothing
Taking the dog for a walk
Journaling
Listening to music
Being around others
Having time to myself
Yoga/meditation
Taking my meds on time
Getting to sleep at a reasonable hour
Eating healthfully
Talking to a friend
Having earplugs easy to access
Reading
Creating
a Wellness Toolbox may seem simplistic to many. However,
I cannot even begin to explain the value of having these tools
written down in an easy-to-access
WRAP helps solidify it in my
mind.
Likewise,
many people with whom I’ve spoken feel the same way. When
symptoms arise, it’s often difficult to focus on what needs to
be done. It’s nice to have a ready-made plan of things to do so
that the effort of remembering what you need to do isn’t
required.
When
I sat in that warehouse driveway, I had no tools. I felt like the one
of those foolish virgins without oil, scrambling to figure out how I
was doing to replace my battery now that the time had arrived.
Calling my dad allowed me to stop, think, and figure out what I
needed to do.
Gratefully,
I was able to talk the store manager into letting me use their tools
to remove my battery and replace it with a good one. By the time I
finished, my nice office clothes were covered in engine grease.
I’m
a wimp. Lifting that battery out of my car, taking it to customer
service, waiting in line, exchanging it for a new one and then
lifting in the new one wore me out. But I did it! On my own! I have
to admit, I felt proud of myself, much the same way I feel when I
advert mental unraveling.
Wellness
maintained. Wellness restored.
Tune
in next time for my fourth column on Wellness Recovery Action Plan.
Sarah Price Hancock, a graduate of San Diego State University's rehabilitation
counseling Masters of Science program with a certificate psychiatric
rehabilitation.
Having embarked on her own journey with a mental health diagnosis, she is
passionate about psychiatric recovery. She enjoys working as a lector
for universities, training upcoming mental health professionals.
Sarah also enjoys sharing insights with peers working to strengthen
their "recovery toolbox." With proper support, Sarah
knows psychiatric recovery isn’t just possible — it’s
probable.
Born and raised in San Diego, California, Sarah served a Spanish-speaking
and ASL mission for the LDS Church in the Texas Dallas Mission. She
was graduated from Ricks College and BYU. Sarah currently resides in
San Diego and inherited four amazing children when she married the
man of her dreams in 2011. She loves writing, public speaking,
ceramics, jewelry-making and kite-flying — not necessarily in
that order.