We
were so glad to be able to come be a part of your baptism. I was
touched by your readiness and pure desire to take this step to follow
our Savior and to draw close to our Father in Heaven.
Eight
isn’t very old, compared to the years of life we hope you will
have. You don’t know a lot of things yet, but you are old
enough and have learned enough to recognize when you feel something
is right and when you know it is wrong or unkind. Eight is the age
that our Heavenly Father has told us that children, still young, are
able to understand the difference.
You
will still have to learn, try, and figure out a lot of things as you
grow up, but let me tell you a little secret: all the grownups are
still figuring things out too. Every one of us is still learning
every day and year of our lives.
Those
who have charge of teaching and helping you have just had a good head
start, and they can help you learn the things that they have already
learned and experienced themselves, and sometimes it will be
important for you to know how they have found their own lessons.
We
all have our own life lessons, and one of the reasons we have the
Church organized is so that we can help each other along the way.
On
Sunday you had the chance to take the sacrament for the first time as
a confirmed member of the Church. I know that you have come to
church with your family all of your life, and you have taken the
sacrament as your parents have taught you to be reverent, that it’s
a time to remember Jesus.
But
now it is even more than that; it is a time to remember, every week,
that when you were baptized you promised to follow Jesus and keep the
commandments, and He promised that His Spirit would always be with
you. That’s the gift of the Holy Ghost that you received.
That’s
the reason that the sacrament is the most important time in all of
our meetings. As you get older, the words of people’s talks
and testimonies will give you more and more truths that go right into
your heart and stay because the Holy Ghost will speak to you through
them. (I promise church won’t be boring all the time.)
But
the reason for our greatest reverence is the promise that coming to
take the sacrament is like coming to be baptized all over again.
Don’t forget how sweet and wonderful that felt.
Sometimes
you won’t be paying attention to that — not totally.
Sometimes you might be just waiting for the meeting to be done so you
can see your best friend, or to go to class where you love your
teacher, or you might be annoyed, jostling elbows with a brother or
sister.
That’s
okay, because Heavenly Father knows that we don’t do what we’re
supposed to do perfectly all the time. That’s why Jesus is
there for us, to let us repent and try again. Doing what’s
right takes practice, and it gets easier to do as you keep trying.
Your
Primary counselor told you that this is the first time in your life
that you have made a promise that counts for your whole, entire life.
That’s true, and it’s pretty amazing. Someday you will
make other promises that count for your whole, entire life when you
go to the temple and when you get married.
Heavenly
Father promises us that He loves us always and will help us no matter
what, if we come to Him, and He’s so perfect that His promises
are absolutely true, forever. He will never let us down. When we
make true promises like baptism and temple covenants it helps us be
more like Him and His Son.
Even
though we are not perfect, and we make mistakes, and we let people
down sometimes, the Savior makes all those things better. So we
become better. Just don’t ever give up on yourself. And don’t
ever give up on believing and trusting the Lord.
It’s
pretty amazing to think about how President Monson and the apostles
understand the power of God and follow the Spirit. Remember that the
gift of the Holy Ghost that they have is the very same gift that you
have now. You now have something in common with the prophet —
very cool. When you stop to think that every member of the Church
has that same thing in common, you will realize how much strength
there is in being a part of it.
If
you obey the feelings that the Holy Ghost will bring to you, you will
be safe. Sometimes there are scary things in this world, and
sometimes we don’t realize immediately that something is not a
good idea, whether it’s a place or something that someone else
wants you to do with them. If you feel uneasy about something,
listen to that. Even if you don’t know why, be ready to say
that you just don’t think you should do something and then
don’t do it.
f
you do make a mistake, pray for help to know how to fix it. He won’t
be mad at you; just try the best you know how.
If
you follow the feelings that the Holy Ghost brings to you, you will
be happy. When you keep the commandments, the Holy Ghost will help
you feel strong and confident. When you do something generous, the
Holy Ghost will increase the love in your heart. You are already
conscientious and kind, and you will learn how to serve others and
grow in your testimony.
Remember
the words of the song you chose for your baptism, and trust them.
Pray, He is there; Speak, He is listening.
You are His child; His love now surrounds you.
He hears your prayer; He loves the children.
Of such is the kingdom, the kingdom of heav’n.
You
have many people who love you
and will help you as you follow the right way. You have parents who
have taught you well, and they will continue to teach and guide you.
Above all else, your Father in Heaven knows you and loves you and
watches over you always. I pray that you never forget that He is
your help, perfectly and forever.
Marian J. Stoddard was born in Washington, D.C., and grew up in its Maryland suburbs. Her
father grew up in Carson City, Nevada, and her mother in Salt Lake City, so she was always
partly a Westerner at heart, and she ended up raising her family in Washington State. Her family
took road trips all over the United States and Canada, so there were lots of adventures.
The adventures of music, literature, and art were also valued and pursued. Playing tourist always
included the local museums as well as historical sites and places of natural beauty. Discussions
at home, around the dinner table or working in the kitchen, could cover politics, philosophy, or
poetry, with the perspective of the gospel underlying all. Words and ideas, and testimony and
service, were the family currency.
Marian graduated from Winston Churchill High School in Potomac, Maryland, and attended the
University of Utah as the recipient of the Ralph Hardy Memorial Scholarship, where she was
graduated with honors, receiving a B.A. in English. She also met the love of her life, a law
student, three weeks after her arrival; she jokes that she had to marry him because her mother
always wanted a tenor in the family. (She sings second soprano.) They were married two years
later and have six children and six grandchildren (so far). She treasures her family, her friends,
and her opportunities to serve.
Visit Marian at her blog, greaterthansparrows. You can contact her at
bloggermarian@gmail.com.
Marian and her husband live in Tacoma, Washington. Together they teach those who are
preparing to go to the temple for the first time, and she also teaches a Stake Relief Society
Institute class.