Love and marriage are
always in season, as are books on the subject.
Anyone who knows
anything knows that every marriage comes with challenges; no one is
exempt from the roller coaster of life. But a couple can enjoy the
wild ride if they understand each other’s needs and ways of
dealing with things, says Ramona Zabriskie, author of Wife for
Life: The Power to Succeed in Marriage (Leicester Bay Books
2013, 247 pages in soft cover, $12.95).
The subtitle, A
Woman’s Inspirational Guide to a Grand Lifelong Marriage,
may sound off-putting to some, as some of the fanciful metaphors of
knights and castles may also seem. Yet, there’s some great
practical advice to be found here.
The author is bluntly
honest about her own marriage and the challenges she and her husband,
professional speaker Dale Zabriskie, have encountered over the past
35 years — and how they’ve changed things for the better.
The book project grew
out of her internationally-read blog as well as her own experience
and compassionate counsel to other women. To those real-life
examples, she’s added findings from academic experts in the
field.
Zabriskie is a
proponent of the art of gentle negotiation and avoiding alienation.
She offers encouragement, hope, positive suggestions, and strategies
to recover from the potential of a conversation or situation to
distance us from each other.
“Thankfully,”
she writes, “Dale and I have survived this thing called
marriage — unquestionably the most daring undertaking in the
human experience — because we did our best to prevent
unnecessary conflict, protect the relationship during conflict,
persevere despite unsolvable conflict, [and] recover after a
conflict.”
Zabriskie is LDS, but
the sound principles and ideas here are not directed solely at a
Latter-day Saint audience; they can be applied on a broad scale.
Although Wife for Life is a bit wordy, you get the feeling she
would really, truly like to see every couple have a marriage that’s
not just OK, but “grand.”
Reality meets
spirituality in another book aimed right at the LDS market. Love
at Home: Insights form the Lives of Latter-day Prophets is by
Alonzo L. Gaskill and Steven T. Linford, a BYU religion professor and
Orem University Institute director, respectively (Cedar Fort Press
2013, 100 pages in hardcover, $14.99).
With their backgrounds,
you’d expect them to be giving good advice for successful
marriages to their young adult students. And they do. But this book
speaks to the long-married as well as newlyweds and hope-to-weds.
Topics in 12 relatively short chapters include supporting each other
as husband and wife, putting the Lord first, having a sense of humor,
communicating kindly, setting priorities, and creating unity as a
couple.
The authors offer
scriptures and quotes from general authorities, plus experiences from
the lives of modern-day prophets to flesh out each topic. (Talk about
personal glimpses: I had not realized that Joseph F. Smith and his
first wife divorced.) What reader couldn’t smile at the
delightful story of President Kimball going on a family vacation by
himself while his wife and children stayed home because they couldn’t
agree on how to spend (or save) money?
Married couples of all
ages can benefit from the insights in Love at Home.
Laurie
Williams Sowby has been writing since second grade and getting paid
for it since high school. Her byline ("all three names, please")
has appeared on more than 6,000 freelance articles published in
newspapers, magazines, and online.
A
graduate of BYU and a writing instructor at Utah Valley University
for many years, she proudly claims all five children and their
spouses as college grads.
She
and husband, Steve, have served three full-time missions together,
beginning in 2005 in Chile, followed by Washington D.C. South, then
Washington D.C. North, both times as young adult Institute teachers.
They are currently serving in the New York Office of Public and
International Affairs
During
her years of missionary service, Laurie has continued to write about
significant Church events, including the rededication of the Santiago
Temple by President Hinckley and the groundbreaking for the
Philadelphia Temple by President Eyring. She also was a Church
Service Missionary, working as a news editor at Church Magazines,
between full-time missions.
Laurie
has traveled to all 50 states and at least 45 countries (so far).
While home is American Fork, Utah, Lincoln Center and the
Metropolitan Museum of Art have provided a comfortable second home.
Laurie
is currently serving a fourth full-time mission with her husband in
the New York Office of Public and International Affairs. The two
previously served with a branch presidency at the Provo Missionary
Training Center. The oldest of 18 grandchildren have been called to
serve missions in New Hampshire and Brisbane, Australia.