Of the more than 200 photographs I took on a recent family trip, one in
particular stands out to me more than any other.
We had driven from Colorado to St. Louis and back, visiting many locations
around the St. Louis area; we also spent some time at some Church history
sites in northwest Missouri, including the Liberty Jail Historic Site and the
Independence Visitors' Center. As I perused our pictures of the Gateway Arch,
the Mississippi and Missouri Rivers, museums, beautiful architecture, local
wildlife and nature, historical sites and family pictures, it was a picture from
the Independence Visitors' Center that halted my perusing and filled me with
emotion.
In it, my children are posed in front of the gleaming, bright Christus statue
replica that greets visitors near the entrance. There they stand -- those four
happy, sweet, precious faces of my kiddos, framed by the Savior's outstretched
hands. Dressed not in perfectly coordinated outfits, but rather in comfortable,
mismatched traveling clothes in preparation for the 12-hour drive that
stretched ahead of us, my camera captured their cute growing bodies and
unique, varied individual personalities as they were in that frozen moment in
time.
But what really affected me was how my children were framed by the Savior's
outstretched hands; as I stared at it, I feel I could almost hear the Lord saying,
"I have given you these precious gifts - how have you received them? What are
you doing to show gratitude for these spirits I have sent to you? Are you doing
your part to prepare them to someday return to me?"
It also called to mind an occasion when I was driving home from a Primary
activity with my oldest son; I was serving as the Primary President, and he was
a young member of the Primary. The activity had been themed "I am a Child of
God," to reflect that year's theme, and our activities had surrounded this
crucial and key message.
As we drove, my son announced to me, "I'm not just any child. I am a child of
God!"
It is imperative that we not only instill in our children this reminder of their
divine nature, but also keep this on the forefront of our minds as we endeavor
to raise the sprits entrusted to our care.
I can barely even comprehend how different children throughout the world
would be treated if all - or even more - parents and caregivers understood this
principle and let it command their actions. Perhaps abuse and neglect would
be eradicated, or at least greatly reduced. Perhaps parents would sacrifice more
to spend greater and more quality time with their children. Perhaps the moral
character of our countries would be strengthened.
My friend recounted an experience she had last summer while riding the
Subway through New York City. As she watched the variety of people come and
go all around her, from all walks of life and all backgrounds, she was filled with
a profound feeling of love as she was reminded that everyone who walks this
earth is a son or daughter of God, no matter their appearance or station in life.
If we know and believe this in the very depths of our soul, shouldn't it affect
how we treat those we come into contact with?
On a much smaller scale, as my photograph reminds me, as parents we are
raising children of God. If we know and believe this, shouldn't it affect how we
accept this responsibility and how it governs our parenting actions?
I have reflected much on the perceived questions the Savior might ask in
regards to my sacred responsibility.
Am I grateful for the gift of motherhood?
How have I received these precious children?
Am I doing all I can with my limited time to prepare them for their own lives,
and to someday return to Him?
If there's a quintessential mothering cliché, it has to be, "Where does the time
go?"
It's true; we are parenting on borrowed time - borrowed from Him above. We
are subsequently accountable for what we do with this time. For the things we
teach them, with both our actions and our words. For the attitudes we have
toward our children. For the time and love we give or don't give to them. For
how much we make parenting a priority.
And ultimately, for how often we greet them with outstretched arms, holding
them safe and loved until they return to the arms of the Savior.
Melissa Howell was born and raised in the woods of northern Minnesota. She has a degree in
journalism from the University of Minnesota.
As a single 20-something, she moved to Colorado seeking an adventure. She found one, first in
landing her dream job and then in landing her dream husband; four children followed.
Upon becoming a mother, she left her career in healthcare communications to be a stay-at-home
mom, and now every day is an adventure with her husband Brian and children Connor (9), Isabel
(6), Lucas (5) and Mason (2).
In addition, she is a freelance writer and communications consultant for a variety of
organizations.
Melissa serves as Assistant director of media relations for stake public affairs and Webelos den leader