"We seldom get into trouble when we speak softly. It is only when we raise our voices that the sparks fly and tiny molehills become great mountains of contention."
Our
move entailed a lot of challenges, small and great. That’s
inevitable, whether the changes are coming by enthusiastic desire or
unwilling necessity. Moving is stressful.
Several
of our friends, at various times, expressed their sympathetic dismay
that we had to leave our home after so many years. The circumstances
were not entirely of our choosing, a combination of physical and
financial problems. This house was where we had raised our family;
we moved in with three pre-schoolers and then had three more
children, rearranging and remodeling through the years to fit them
in.
We
were no longer distressed at the fact that we had to leave. The Lord
had whispered that He had other plans, and He brought things together
so unmistakably that we all we could do was go forward, and keep
praying and plugging away at the daunting tasks involved.
We
had had a long history in this home, and it had been a good place for
us. Nothing can diminish the memories of all that we had lived and
learned within those walls. Now a new young family would do their
own growing there. Their prayers and needs as well as ours were
being answered, and it was impossible not to feel blessed.
The
burdens of physically accomplishing all that we needed to do were
large, however. And no matter how happy or unhappy the choice to
relocate is, there are inevitably a lot of adjustments; things you
will miss about your life before, and things you will have to figure
out how to do with your new circumstances and surroundings.
I
miss having neighbors around. We sit on a corner, with a vacant lot
next to us and a presently empty property behind us. I miss the
neighbors from the old block, to stop and chat with as we each came
and went.
Finding
a house for the price of an apartment was a blessing; we had space to
set up a workable life for us. Finding a house with a basement was a
gift. That basement meant that we could bring our freezer and food
storage, and things we still have to get to our kids. However, there
is no interior stairway; you have to go out the back door, to the
corner and turn down the stairwell. This will be more of a problem
come winter when it’s pouring rain all the time!
We
were pushed into this place a little faster than we anticipated.
Though the packing and transferring process took a while, we moved
ourselves over to the new address the last weekend of March. We had
been talking about the end of summer as moving time, but that’s
not how it happened.
That
meant that I didn’t have the pleasure, for one last spring, of
all the April cherry blossoms. I loved to stop and take a deep
visual inhale of the trees that the city planted up and down both
sides of our double-length block fifteen years ago. I could see them
through the window as I went up and down the stairs, or every time I
opened the front door, or arrived home in my car. I loved to set off
under them on my daily walks, and then, reaching my home street
again, walk through them to arrive at my home.
The cherry blossoms of our old street live on, if only in pictures.
However,
there were large old trees at the new place, filled with white
blossoms. I didn’t know what they were, but they were
beautiful in bloom and would be good shade in summer. Spaced along
the side street, one tree was at the front corner of our property,
matched by one in the middle and one just over the fence behind us.
There
was a large camellia bush at the front corner, whose branches reached
around to the window of the little vestibule inside our front door.
The house runs in its length front to back, rather than side to side,
and the entry is at that edge.
Once
we had a couch moved here, the white tree and the camellias filled
that side entry window, and I could sit and drink them in. A new
beauty helped mitigate the loss of the old. (And it turned out that
the cherry blossoms made the new people fall in love with our old
street, so they helped make the sale.)
We
wouldn’t have one more year with our fruit trees, either.
Besides the two plum trees that were there before us, we left behind
two apple trees.
One,
a red gravenstein, was a gift, planted a year later. I told its story
in my column
of September 19, 2012. The one my husband planted was an old-time
variety that you will never see in a store, a yellow transparent. He
had one growing up, and he wanted the same kind.
Transparents
are a very pale, soft apple, and they go from ready to ruined pretty
quickly. They don’t ship or store well, so they aren’t
grown commercially. They are a tart cooking apple, and they
basically disintegrate when cooked, but they do have amazing flavor.
They also come on early compared to most apple varieties.
One
day in mid-summer I stepped out the kitchen door and glanced up
towards that big lovely tree just over the fence. I was astonished
to realize that there were apples on the branches. The
differentiation of shape and color had now revealed what had not been
previously apparent: this was an apple tree!
I
went back inside, through the house and out the front door to stand
under the tree in our front corner and peer up into it. In early
spring, the white flowers had been identical. The leaves had looked
identical. The sizes, thus probably the age, had been the same, so I
supposed that they all might have been planted about the same time.
Did this mean that there were apples on our tree?
No,
it did not. There were no apples hiding out from us here, or on the
tree in the middle. There were only apples on the tree drooping over
our fence from behind.
What
kind of apples would they be? With no history available to us, we
had no idea. They were developing quickly enough that we decided it
was likely that they were a green or yellow variety, and not red, but
all we could do was watch and find out. The property was owned by
our same landlords, and it was vacant, so we had permission to pick
them when they were ready. The property manager agreed that they
shouldn’t go to waste.
It
became clear that they were an early variety, something yellow. One,
way up in the branches, caught the sun one day and looked almost
silvery. What were the chances, I thought for a brief instant? It
used to be a popular variety, and it’s an old tree. But I
didn’t say anything. Time would reveal the answer.
My
husband came in about a week later with one in hand. He showed me
the pale apple up close, and said, “I think these are
transparents!” He took a bite and said, “Yes! It’s
a transparent!”
His
favorite apple in all the world; he’s not really an apple
person otherwise. I had a sudden image and laughed a little.
“I
have a picture of your Father in Heaven smiling,” I said to
him. “He’s just been waiting to see when you’d
find that one small gift, waiting just for you, in this place He’s
put us.”
And
for me? The other tree I hadn’t paid much attention to, whose
branches drop over the very back corner of the fence, has pears on
it. I’ve always wanted a pear tree.
Marian J. Stoddard was born in Washington, D.C., and grew up in its Maryland suburbs. Her
father grew up in Carson City, Nevada, and her mother in Salt Lake City, so she was always
partly a Westerner at heart, and she ended up raising her family in Washington State. Her family
took road trips all over the United States and Canada, so there were lots of adventures.
The adventures of music, literature, and art were also valued and pursued. Playing tourist always
included the local museums as well as historical sites and places of natural beauty. Discussions
at home, around the dinner table or working in the kitchen, could cover politics, philosophy, or
poetry, with the perspective of the gospel underlying all. Words and ideas, and testimony and
service, were the family currency.
Marian graduated from Winston Churchill High School in Potomac, Maryland, and attended the
University of Utah as the recipient of the Ralph Hardy Memorial Scholarship, where she was
graduated with honors, receiving a B.A. in English. She also met the love of her life, a law
student, three weeks after her arrival; she jokes that she had to marry him because her mother
always wanted a tenor in the family. (She sings second soprano.) They were married two years
later and have six children and six grandchildren (so far). She treasures her family, her friends,
and her opportunities to serve.
Visit Marian at her blog, greaterthansparrows. You can contact her at
bloggermarian@gmail.com.
Marian and her husband live in Tacoma, Washington. Together they teach those who are
preparing to go to the temple for the first time, and she also teaches a Stake Relief Society
Institute class.