"We seldom get into trouble when we speak softly. It is only when we raise our voices that the sparks fly and tiny molehills become great mountains of contention."
Why Your Family History isn't Really "All Done" — And Why That's a Good Thing
by Kathryn Grant
From
time to time, I hear people say that their family history is “all
done” (except for maybe a few brick walls). And the statement
may come with a sigh of relief, as if to say, “Whew, I’ve
checked that requirement off my list.”
But
you know what? I’ve never met anyone whose family history
actually was all done and I don’t expect to in this
life. Why would that be?
Many
“finished” genealogies were compiled years ago, some
even before the advent of online records. Today many more records
are available, and the number grows daily. It’s very likely
those records contain additional names that could be added to these
genealogies. And many of those names likely need temple work.
Closely
related to the point above, people are constantly being born and
dying. Unless someone is monitoring every possible branch of their
family tree, it’s impossible for the tree to be complete. And
that means temple work may be needed for people who are missing or
who died after the research was done.
According to Elder Allan F. Packer,
“One study calculated that if we went back 10 generations and
did the work for their cousins and the cousin’s descendants,
there is the potential for about 8 million people if there were only
4 children per family. Many had much larger families.”1
That means that unless
someone has found around 8 million descendants, there’s a good
chance more people are waiting to be found.
As
you can see, it’s virtually impossible for someone’s
family history to be “all done.”
At
this point, you might be tempted to panic: “Eight million
names? Are you kidding me? Now I'm overwhelmed and I really
don’t feel like doing family history.”
Or
you may want to go the opposite direction: “I had better get
busy and find as many names as quickly as possible and get my family
history all done.” (Unfortunately, this approach usually leads
to misuse of finding tools, errors, and invalid ordinances.)
Elder
Dallin H. Oaks gave an inspired response
to both these concerns when he said,
In the work of redeeming
the dead there are many tasks to be performed…. All members
should participate by prayerfully selecting those ways that fit their
personal circumstances at a particular time. This should be done
under the influence of the Spirit of the Lord and with the guidance
of priesthood leaders who issue calls and direct the
Church-administered portions of this work.
Our effort is not to
compel everyone to do everything, but to encourage everyone to do
something.2
There
is always something you can do for family history. With only few
exceptions, everyone can participate and is encouraged to do so.
Regular, consistent effort is the key, guided by the Spirit.
Ponder
and pray about what the Lord wants you
to do for your family history and start there. In other words, find
that little part of the vineyard that the Lord wants you to tend and
go to work there.
Don’t
worry about finishing your family history. That puts your focus in
the wrong place. Instead, make an ongoing, consistent effort. You’ll
see rich and abundant blessings flow into your life,3
and you’ll be grateful you realized that your family history
wasn’t “all done” after all.
1
Elder Allan F. Packer, “Spiritual Passport.” Talk given
at Family Discovery Day at the RootsTech family history conference
in 2014.
Kathryn Grant is a user assistance professional with a passion
for usability and process
improvement. She also loves family history and enjoys the challenge and
reward of building her family tree.
As a child, she lived outside the United States for four years because of her father's job. This experience fueled her natural love of words and language, and also taught her to appreciate other cultures.
Kathryn values gratitude, teaching, learning, differences, and unity. She loves looking at star-filled skies, reading mind-stretching books, listening to contemporary Christian music, attending the temple, and eating fresh raspberries.
Kathryn teaches Sunday family history classes at the BYU Family History Library, and presents frequently at family history events. For more information, visit her Family History Learning Resources page