"We seldom get into trouble when we speak softly. It is only when we raise our voices that the sparks fly and tiny molehills become great mountains of contention."
Traveling brings the
most amazing experiences while learning about people and places
around the world. Sometimes it happens when I see a new sight.
Other times it happens when I meet a new person. Today’s
adventure centers around a person I met in one of my travels.
One of my long-time
speaking friends found out that I was the tour leader for trips to
China, Peru, and South Africa. I got a call from her asking me
if she and a friend could join me on a trip to China.
She told me that her
friend had just retired from a career in the Navy and that she was a
two-star admiral. I knew that was a high rank, but when I
looked it up I found out that was the equivalent to a two-star
general in the Army or Air Force. I had never met anyone of
that rank in all my travels.
I found Sharon Redpath
to be a unique person. She was a delight to be with from
beginning to end. She was out to live life to the fullest.
Her mother had been a tailor and she was the one in her family that
learn this trade. I learned that she designed purses and sold them on
the Internet. The money that she made from that went into a
fund that helps wounded soldiers.
Sharon Redpath
The first stop on our
tour was in Guilin, which is in the south part of China. The
country of China is in the shape of a chicken. It is just a
little smaller than the USA but has more than 1.4 billion people.
That is about five people for every one that we have in America.
There are 607 cities in the world that have a million people, and 340
of them are in China. (Only 12 are in the USA.)
My goal as I take
people traveling around the world is to have them experience and
enjoy the people they meet. It is much easier to do that in the
country than in big cities. When I stayed in China a few years
ago for six weeks I explored a small town in southern China named
Yanshou. It is nestled among the famous Gumdrop Mountains.
This was a town that I
stayed in for six weeks. I found a lady named Wendy has an
incredible story to tell. I like to invite her to have lunch
with the group and then she takes us on a tour of her home with is a
real Chinese experience. I have written about Wendy before in
these pages. Read her story here.
Wendy is a farmer’s
wife and has never had a car. A friend of her bought her a
scooter, which is what she uses to get from place to place.
When Wendy went to get on her scooter I could see that Sharon really
wanted to go with her so we arranged for her to ride on the back of
the scooter to Wendy’s house.
Wendy and Sharon on Wendy’s scooter.
Everyone that I take to
Wendy’s leaves more grateful for what they have a home.
Wendy lives in the country in a typical farmhouse. As a
farmer’s wife she could have two children. Her first two
children were girls. In China, in the country most families
want a boy. Girls will marry and go off with their husband’s
family.
Wendy wanted a third
child. In China if you live in the city you can have one
child. If you live in the country you can have two children.
An extra child will cost the family a lot of money. Wendy’s
friend told her that she should become a guide because she lives in a
beautiful part of the country and many foreigners come there to
visit.
Wendy did not speak a
word of English. One of her friends printed her a sign in
English that said, “I can be your guide,” and Wendy would
go out and show the area to the tourists who hired her. Wendy
learned English from the tourists, and the tourists allowed her to
earn enough money to have her third child, which is a boy.
As a farmer’s
wife Wendy helps her husband plant, grow and harvest the crop.
One day when I went to see Wendy she was carrying these two baskets
of sweet potatoes from the field to their house. I tried to
lift the basket, which I guess would weigh at least 120 pounds.
I could not even get them off the ground.
These baskets of sweet potatoes weigh at least 120 pounds.
Next for Sharon was a
tour of the kitchen. When Sharon saw the live chicken in the
corner just to her left of her in a cage on the floor, it was hard to
stifle a laugh.
Sharon was startled to see a chicken in the kitchen.
Now to the bedroom, we
saw all they had for a bed was a board and a bamboo slats over it.
Coming from America it was hard to understand how they could sleep
but in China they like a very hard mattress.
In China, the bed is the equivalent of sleeping on the floor.
Our last stop was to
the outhouse which was about 100 feet from the house. It was
just a hole in the ground with a pail of water and a small cooking
pan to use when you needed to flush the toilet.
These are a far cry from the bathrooms used in the United States.
As our tour ended I
heard Sharon say, “I am going home and never complain about
anything again.” Sometimes all it takes is a trip to see
how other live to help us appreciate what we have.
Dian is a tour director
for Dick Jensen Tours. To see all the tours that Dian and
others take, go to http://www.dickjensentours.com.
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read this article in the Nauvoo Times.
Dian Thomas was blessed with the good fortune to be born near and raised in
the remote, breathtaking Manti-La Sal National Forest in southeastern Utah,
where her father was the forest ranger. She took the skills she learned in the
outdoors and turned them into a New York Times best-selling book, Roughing It
Easy. Her appearance on the NBC's "Tonight" show with Johnny Carson
boosted her into the national media scene, where she became a regular on
NBC's "Today" show for eight years and then ABC's "Home Show" for six years.
After more than 25 years of media exposure and 19 books, she now shares her
practical insights and wisdom with audiences who want to savor life.
A former Relief Society president, Dian is currently serving as a visiting
teacher. Visit her website at www.DianThomas.com