"We seldom get into trouble when we speak softly. It is only when we raise our voices that the sparks fly and tiny molehills become great mountains of contention."
“Be thankful unto [the Lord], and bless his name.” (Psalms 100:4.)
“In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning
you.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18.)
Most
of us would agree the reminders are needed. Why do we sometimes not
appreciate the wonderful blessings we have? Why do we sometimes miss
the miracles around us as plentiful as air?
One
reason may be that thankfulness takes focus: most of us probably
aren’t naturally grateful without mindfully cultivating this
virtue. In addition, we live in a culture of complaint: criticism and
negativity provide fodder for everything from news broadcasts to
sitcoms, from our public conversations to our private thoughts.
Likewise,
we can’t discount the influence of the adversary, who, in the
complete absence of gratitude, goes about stirring up contention and
anger against that which is good (3 Nephi 11:29;
2 Nephi 28:20).
So
is cultivating a grateful heart worth the effort? Absolutely. Let’s
explore why.
Gratitude
counteracts the tendency to focus on what’s wrong, to notice
the worst in situations instead of the best. When we’re
grateful we experience life as it is, rather than through the
distorted lens of negativity.
Gratitude
is a powerful antidote for pride. Gratitude makes it easier to live
in the moment and acknowledge the blessings we already have, instead
of feeling that we were entitled to something better and were
therefore wronged because we didn’t get it.
While
ingratitude depresses, gratitude uplifts ourselves and others. It’s
hard to be unhappy when we’re grateful. In the words of Elder
David A. Bednar, “A grateful person is rich in contentment. An
ungrateful person suffers in the poverty of endless discontentment.”
(“The
Windows of Heaven,”
October 2013 General Conference.)
What’s
more, gratitude is good for health. More than once, I’ve
noticed that my energy level and concentration are better when I’m
grateful.
As
if these advantages weren’t enough, there are profound
spiritual benefits as well. Because gratitude to God is an expression
of faith, when we increase our gratitude we increase our faith.
Grateful people experience the joy of “[standing] as witnesses
of God at all times and in all things, and in all places”
(Mosiah 18:9).
And according to Ann Voskamp in her book One Thousand Gifts,
gratitude is a way to experience the presence of God.
So
how do we bring the energizing, enobling power of gratitude more
fully into our lives? That will be the topic of the next column.
Kathryn Grant is a user assistance professional with a passion
for usability and process
improvement. She also loves family history and enjoys the challenge and
reward of building her family tree.
As a child, she lived outside the United States for four years because of her father's job. This experience fueled her natural love of words and language, and also taught her to appreciate other cultures.
Kathryn values gratitude, teaching, learning, differences, and unity. She loves looking at star-filled skies, reading mind-stretching books, listening to contemporary Christian music, attending the temple, and eating fresh raspberries.
Kathryn teaches Sunday family history classes at the BYU Family History Library, and presents frequently at family history events. For more information, visit her Family History Learning Resources page