"We seldom get into trouble when we speak softly. It is only when we raise our voices that the sparks fly and tiny molehills become great mountains of contention."
“Shrink
not from your duty, however unpleasant / But follow the Savior, your
pattern and friend.” So counsels the latter-day hymn, “The
Time is Far
Spent.”
We
know the Savior is the perfect pattern for us to follow, and some
patterns of His life seem to get a lot of our attention. For
instance, we often speak of how He did His Father’s will (John
5:19,
John
6:38);
how He taught in parables (Matt
13:34);
and how He healed the sick according to their faith (see, for
example, Matt
9:20–22
and Luke
18:35–42).
But
what about other patterns in the Savior’s life, perhaps less
obvious, that can encourage and inspire us?
In
her life-changing book One
Thousand
Gifts,
Ann Voskamp tells of her unexpected discovery of one pattern in the
Savior’s life: gratitude to His Father. Before raising Lazarus
from the dead, the Savior prayed, “Father, I thank thee that
thou hast heard me.” (John
11:41.)
Before five loaves and two fishes became enough to feed five
thousand, the Savior “gave thanks” (John
6:11).
On
another occasion, after grieving for a faithless and wicked
generation, He prayed again, “I thank thee, O Father, Lord of
heaven and earth, because thou hast hid these things from the wise
and prudent, and hast revealed them unto babes.” (Matthew
11:25.)
And
significantly, before facing the agony of Gethsemane and the cross,
Jesus took the cup and the bread—the very emblems of His coming
suffering and death — and “gave thanks” (Luke
22:17,
19).
How
might this pattern inspire us to be more grateful for blessings we
receive, even when those blessings come with challenges?
Another
intriguing pattern is the Lord’s use of questions to help His
listeners grow and learn.1 Since He is all-knowing, He
could simply declare His words rather than ever ask us a question.
But since He loves us, He engages us in finding answers.
For
example, when teaching about the importance of not judging, the Lord
could have said, “Thou beholdest the mote in thy brother’s
eye, but perceivest not the beam in thine own eye.” But
instead, He used a question to invite us to consider our own behavior
and motives: “Why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy
brother’s eye, but perceivest not the beam that is in thine own
eye?” (Luke
6:41.)
The
Lord invited similar introspection when He asked, “Why call ye
me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say?” (Luke
6:46.)
It
was also through a question that the Lord invited Peter to confirm
his witness of the Lord’s divinity:
[Jesus] asked his
disciples, saying, Whom do men say that I the Son of man am?
And they said, Some say
that thou art John the Baptist: some, Elias; and others, Jeremias, or
one of the prophets.
He saith unto them, But
whom say ye that I am?
And Simon Peter answered
and said, Thou art the Christ, the Son of the living God. (Matthew
16:13–16.)
How
could we use questions to engage others and help them find their own
vital answers?
Another
pattern that may not be so obvious is how frequently the Savior came
to the temple. Most of us are familiar with the time He drove away
the money changers (John
2:13;
Luke
2:25-38).
The Lord must have seen in them an example of valuing the temple.
At
age 12, Jesus was in the temple “about his Father’s
business” (Luke
2:46-49).
He spent time in the temple so that the blind and the lame could
come unto Him to be healed (Matthew
21:14).
When the mob came to arrest Him near the end of His life, His words
to them gave evidence of His love for the temple: “I sat daily
with you teaching in the temple.” (Matthew
26:55.)
Knowing
how the Savior reverenced the temple and went there often, how might
we follow this pattern more fully in our lives?
As
I've read the scriptures looking for patterns in the Savior's life,
it's been a treasure hunt (Colossians
2:2-3).
No doubt there are more treasures of patterns to discover! May we
search the scriptures for these patterns so we can learn from them
and become more like our divine “Pattern and Friend.”
Kathryn Grant is a user assistance professional with a passion
for usability and process
improvement. She also loves family history and enjoys the challenge and
reward of building her family tree.
As a child, she lived outside the United States for four years because of her father's job. This experience fueled her natural love of words and language, and also taught her to appreciate other cultures.
Kathryn values gratitude, teaching, learning, differences, and unity. She loves looking at star-filled skies, reading mind-stretching books, listening to contemporary Christian music, attending the temple, and eating fresh raspberries.
Kathryn teaches Sunday family history classes at the BYU Family History Library, and presents frequently at family history events. For more information, visit her Family History Learning Resources page