"We seldom get into trouble when we speak softly. It is only when we raise our voices that the sparks fly and tiny molehills become great mountains of contention."
It
was late 2007, and I
was living in the California Bay Area. To my surprise, I started
getting promptings that I should prepare to move. I didn't know why
or when, but the promptings were so strong that I began packing a few
boxes each week.
Fast
forward to summer 2008. At a mandatory meeting at work, we learned
that our location was being closed down. Fortunately, I was able to
get another position in the same company almost immediately. It felt
absolutely right — and it required me to move 2000 miles
away, to Memphis, Tennessee. (Thank goodness I had a head start on
packing!)
Having
seen the Lord's hand so clearly in the move, you can imagine my
surprise when I got to Memphis and everything seemed to go wrong.
Work projects that should have been simple were hedged up by
unexpected obstacles. My work suffered and I missed deadlines
— not exactly the way to inspire my new manager with confidence
in my abilities.
For
several months, I couldn't even get Internet access at my apartment.
I experienced opposition in my church calling. I had difficulty
sleeping. I felt an ongoing sense of anxiety and spiritual unease. It
felt as though I was under some kind of attack!
I
pled with the Lord to know what to do. To my surprise, the clear
impression came that I needed to attend the temple weekly. Having
lived several hours away from a temple in California, I had settled
into a pattern of attending once or twice a month. But apparently
that wasn't enough anymore, especially now that a temple was within
20 minutes of my home.
With full-time work and
several busy callings, I knew it would be a challenge to follow this
prompting. But I also knew what I'd felt. I had to trust the Lord
that I'd be able to do what He asked, and that it would result in the
help I was seeking.
I
now consider the decision to attend the temple weekly to be one of
the turning points in my life. Right away I was freed from the
anxiety I'd been feeling. All my problems were not immediately
resolved, of course, but I was given inspiration line upon line for
all aspects of my life: family, work, church callings, friendships.
I
received gentle correction and insights into my own behavior. The
blessings were so profound that I didn't want to stay away from the
temple. It became the highlight of my week and a source of great
strength and peace.
If
you've been reading this column for a while, you know that its
emphasis is on finding simple ways to achieve important goals.
Probably most of us, if not all, would consider regular temple
attendance an important goal. Still, it's one we often struggle with.
We mean to go later this week, or maybe next month, but something
always seems to come up. Then somehow weeks and even months go by and
we still haven't gone.
In
reality, getting to the temple is very practical: it's largely a
matter of making a schedule and sticking with it, just as we schedule
doctor's appointments or children's soccer games or family outings.
Imagine
this scenario: in your current life, with all your current
obligations, someone promises you a regular check for $10,000 if
you'll agree to pick up the check from them and spend a few hours
together. In your current life, would you find time to do that
regularly? I can't imagine anyone saying no, because the benefit far
exceeds the sacrifice. How much more would we make regular time for
the temple when we realize that the treasures there go far beyond any
earthly wealth!
As
busy as we are now, there's a good chance our lives will become
busier, not less busy, as time goes on. There probably won't be some
magic future when we'll suddenly have ample time to attend the
temple. The way to be diligent in temple worship is to make a plan to
fit it into our lives now.
So
the challenge for this week's column is to prayerfully make a goal
for regular temple attendance. It may be weekly, monthly, or some
other interval that is right for your situation. But once you've made
the goal, schedule your temple sessions and don't let other
less important things get in the way.
The
temple is the source of blessings you can count on; blessings you
don't even know you need; blessings to solve the hardest problems
you're facing. In D&C 127: 4 the Lord says, "Let the work of
my temple... be continued on and not cease; and let your diligence,
and your perseverance, and patience, and your works be redoubled, and
you shall in nowise lose your reward."
Kathryn Grant is a user assistance professional with a passion
for usability and process
improvement. She also loves family history and enjoys the challenge and
reward of building her family tree.
As a child, she lived outside the United States for four years because of her father's job. This experience fueled her natural love of words and language, and also taught her to appreciate other cultures.
Kathryn values gratitude, teaching, learning, differences, and unity. She loves looking at star-filled skies, reading mind-stretching books, listening to contemporary Christian music, attending the temple, and eating fresh raspberries.
Kathryn teaches Sunday family history classes at the BYU Family History Library, and presents frequently at family history events. For more information, visit her Family History Learning Resources page