"We seldom get into trouble when we speak softly. It is only when we raise our voices that the sparks fly and tiny molehills become great mountains of contention."
Remember
the old analogy of the frog and the hot water? If you throw a frog
into a pan of hot water, he’ll immediately jump out. But if you
throw him into a pan of cool water and then gradually turn up the
heat, the frog doesn’t notice the difference and eventually
dies. In the frog’s case, the key to survival is being aware of
the strong contrast between safe water and hot water.
Recently I
experienced one of those spiritual highs where I felt close to the
Lord and saw his tender mercies everywhere. Miracles in family
history led to sweet temple experiences. Whisperings of the Holy
Spirit led to scriptural insights. I marveled and felt so grateful
for blessing after blessing in my life.
It was in
this context that I was invited by some friends to watch an older
movie. I’d heard of it but hadn’t seen it before.
However, the plot sounded clever and it had been popular in my
parents’ day, so I felt no reason to be concerned.
However,
as the movie progressed I started to feel uncomfortable at its
suggestive jokes, and then implied promiscuity. True, the movie was
tame compared to many of today’s offerings. However, probably
because my feelings were still sensitive after feeling so close to
the Lord, the off-color jokes and off-screen immorality stood in
stark, even grimy contrast to the beauty and purity of the Lord’s
standards. After being exposed to the movie, my spirit felt somehow
soiled, as though someone had driven by and spattered mud on me.
This
experience reinforced a similar experience I’d had years
earlier with music. I love music, and popular radio stations were a
daily companion. But I started to see the corroding effects on my
spirit of constant exposure to lyrics that ranged from self-centered
(“What have you done for me lately?”) to self-deceived
(“Imagine there’s no heaven”) to blatantly immoral.
I decided I would root this kind of music out of my life and set my
radio stations to Christian and classical music.
Was it an
adjustment at first? Sure. But now each day I’m encouraged by
uplifting lyrics like these: “My Savior loves, my Savior lives,
my Savior’s always there for me;”(1) “Out of these
ashes beauty will rise, for we know joy is coming in the morning;”(2)
“I know Who goes before me; I know Who stands behind. The God
of angel armies is always by my side.”(3) What a difference!
Sometimes
we don’t realize the muck that’s flung at us until we
remove ourselves from it and replace it with something better. But
when we do, the contrast becomes clear.
So here’s
the challenge for this column: For at least a week, jump out of media
“hot water”—in other words, any media that promotes
ideas and practices contrary to the light of the gospel. Avoid TV and
movies (even favorites) which portray immorality as acceptable or
which use crude language; shun songs with lyrics that cheapen sacred
relationships or encourage breaking the Lord’s commandments;
leave unread magazines that focus on materialism, appearances, and
gossip. Focus instead on media that is “virtuous, lovely, or of
good report or praiseworthy” (Article of Faith 13).
After the
week is up, consider the contrast. Is there a different feeling in
your home and heart? Is the influence of the world more obvious by
having avoided it? Do heavenly things seem sweeter?
1. Aaron
Shust, “My Savior My God”
2. Steven
Curtis Chapman, “Beauty Will Rise”
3. Chris
Tomlin, “Whom Shall I Fear (God of Angel Armies)”
Kathryn Grant is a user assistance professional with a passion
for usability and process
improvement. She also loves family history and enjoys the challenge and
reward of building her family tree.
As a child, she lived outside the United States for four years because of her father's job. This experience fueled her natural love of words and language, and also taught her to appreciate other cultures.
Kathryn values gratitude, teaching, learning, differences, and unity. She loves looking at star-filled skies, reading mind-stretching books, listening to contemporary Christian music, attending the temple, and eating fresh raspberries.
Kathryn teaches Sunday family history classes at the BYU Family History Library, and presents frequently at family history events. For more information, visit her Family History Learning Resources page