"We seldom get into trouble when we speak softly. It is only when we raise our voices that the sparks fly and tiny molehills become great mountains of contention."
Story of Tragedy, Forgiveness, and Peace Rings True in ‘Let It Go’
by Laurie Williams Sowby
Let it Go: A True
Story of Tragedy and Forgiveness, by Chris Williams, Shadow
Mountain, 151 pages in hard cover, $17.99.
On
a cold February night six years ago, Chris Williams’ life was
changed in an instant when a 17-year-old drunk driver crashed into
his car at high speed, instantly killing his pregnant wife, son, and
daughter and critically injuring another son and himself.
And
in that moment of profound loss, this husband and father made the
decision to forgive.
His
story has been told by news outlets and appears as a video interview
on Mormon Messages (see “My Burden Was Made Light” on
lds.org). About anyone who watches can’t help but be touched by
his generosity and the spirit of peace he embodies. Many want to know
how he was able to “let it go.”
What
many don’t realize is that there’s much more to the
story. Chris Williams came to understand that he needed to share more
of how he came to that instant decision to forgive the young driver,
and how he has found peace and the ability to move forward with his
life since that tragic day.
Let
It Go, published by Shadow Mountain, is intended to reach beyond
the Latter-day Saint audience, even though the author was bishop of a
Salt Lake City ward when the accident took his family. It is an
honest account of the author’s feelings of loss and despair and
the simultaneous knowledge deep down that it would be okay. He
details the unforgettable moments immediately before and after the
accident and testifies again and again of the power of prayer to
bring peace. He tells of tender mercies he received throughout this
trial and healing process. The reader is repeatedly in awe of his
eternal perspective.
The
evolving story periodically recounts events earlier in Williams’
life that strengthened his faith and prepared him to deal with the
tragedy, including a time when he was 16 and accidentally hit a child
who had darted into the street; the boy died later at the hospital.
Just days after the boy’s funeral, the child’s mother
sent Williams a letter urging him to “Take courage, Chris, lean
on your testimony, all that you’ve learned of God IS true. Now,
let it comfort you and work for Him in every other way he has in
store for you.”
The
young Chris Williams found the words from a grieving mother both
inspired and inspiring. More than 20 years later, the Chris Williams
who’d lost much of his family in a horrible tragedy remembered
them. From his hospital bed, he asked that the young driver’s
name be added to the prayer roll at the temple; at the hearing, he
asked that “people would seek for peace and healing rather than
looking for retribution.” He reached out to the driver’s
parents and later met the young man; he continues to encourage him in
using the tragic experience for good.
The
author’s honesty about the “brutal loneliness” he
felt, his depression, and the struggles of his two surviving sons
makes his accounts of “tender mercies” all the more real.
He is witness to the fact that hope can be found in the darkest hour,
that the weight of heavy burdens can be lifted. He has put the
doctrine to the test.
“Half
of my family has been taken from this life,” he writes in the
last chapter, “and as we have given that incredible burden to
the lord, He has run to us with healing in His wings. What a wondrous
miracle it has been my blessing to behold. . .
“We
have an advocate who has been given the power and authority to carry
all of our burdens, and yet I have met so many people looking and
praying for the strength to carry their own.”
His
final line in the book invites the reader to act: “What burden
could you lay at the Savior’s feet today that He might
be allowed to work miracles in your life?”
In
sharing his experience in Let It Go, Chris Williams has turned
a tragedy into a blessing for others.
Laurie
Williams Sowby has been writing since second grade and getting paid
for it since high school. Her byline ("all three names, please")
has appeared on more than 6,000 freelance articles published in
newspapers, magazines, and online.
A
graduate of BYU and a writing instructor at Utah Valley University
for many years, she proudly claims all five children and their
spouses as college grads.
She
and husband, Steve, have served three full-time missions together,
beginning in 2005 in Chile, followed by Washington D.C. South, then
Washington D.C. North, both times as young adult Institute teachers.
They are currently serving in the New York Office of Public and
International Affairs
During
her years of missionary service, Laurie has continued to write about
significant Church events, including the rededication of the Santiago
Temple by President Hinckley and the groundbreaking for the
Philadelphia Temple by President Eyring. She also was a Church
Service Missionary, working as a news editor at Church Magazines,
between full-time missions.
Laurie
has traveled to all 50 states and at least 45 countries (so far).
While home is American Fork, Utah, Lincoln Center and the
Metropolitan Museum of Art have provided a comfortable second home.
Laurie
is currently serving a fourth full-time mission with her husband in
the New York Office of Public and International Affairs. The two
previously served with a branch presidency at the Provo Missionary
Training Center. The oldest of 18 grandchildren have been called to
serve missions in New Hampshire and Brisbane, Australia.