I Can Do This: Attainable Goals and Family History
by Kathryn Grant
In
his book Getting Things Done, Dave Allen
observes that people sometimes make the mistake of putting projects
on their task lists instead of specific
actions.
As a result, they’re likely to be paralyzed, to procrastinate,
and to feel guilty — while the project remains undone.
As an example, suppose
you need to paint the kitchen. As long as that’s the task on
your list (written or unwritten), you’ll probably feel
overwhelmed and keep putting it off.
But
the truth is, you can’t just “paint the kitchen.”
Rather, you have to take a series of actions, none of which is
overwhelming on its own: decide on a color, buy brushes and paint,
prep the walls, decide on a day to do the painting, and so forth.
Once you break the project down and put those
tasks
on your task list, you’ll start making progress.
If you’ve attended
sacrament meeting or general conference any time in the past several
decades, you probably have another task on your task list, one that
may seem even more overwhelming than painting the kitchen: doing your
family history.
I can empathize. Not only
did I get this message from countless meetings, but from the time I
was young I also got it repeatedly from my mom, an avid and
accomplished genealogist. Family history was her delight and passion.
She was careful not to pressure me, but I could tell she wanted me to
be more involved than I was.
And believe me, I tried.
I filled out a few pedigree charts and family group sheets. I went to
the Family History Library several times to look things up for her. I
helped her with extraction (in the days before indexing). But even
though these things fanned the spark into a temporary flame, it died
out pretty quickly. So the years passed with an uneasy feeling of
guilt that I wasn’t doing more. But I wasn’t sure how to
change things.
The
breakthrough came when I realized that I had no clue what concrete
action I should take to move ahead. In fact, it turned out that this
realization was
the
clue: since I didn’t know, I needed to get serious about
learning. So I signed up for a five-day class at the Family
History Training Center in Orem, Utah.
Long story short,
attending this class changed my life. I learned how to make family
history doable. The guilt is gone, replaced by an exciting and
rewarding hobby.
Of course, you don’t
have to take a certain class to make family history doable for you.
There are a lot of simple ways to get started.
So here’s this
week’s challenge. Choose an idea from the list below, based on
your situation, or choose an idea of your own.
1. If you haven’t
started working on your family history, pick a day this week and do
one thing to get the ball rolling. Possibilities:
Sign up to be a volunteer indexer,
working with others around the world to make historical records
easily searchable.
2. If you’ve
started your family history but haven’t done anything on it for
a while, pick a day this week and do something to start up again.
Suggestions:
Review
the research you’ve done and prayerfully determine where to
focus next.
Call
or write to someone in your family who might have information you
need.
Do
any of the items suggested in the previous list.
3. If you’re
actively doing your family history, share this column with someone
who could benefit from getting started and encourage them to take the
challenge.
Be warned, though—you
may be about to embark on one of the most exciting adventures of your
life!
Send your comments on this challenge—your observations, obstacles, and successes – by August 1, 2012. I'll share some of your experiences in future columns.
Kathryn Grant is a user assistance professional with a passion
for usability and process
improvement. She also loves family history and enjoys the challenge and
reward of building her family tree.
As a child, she lived outside the United States for four years because of her father's job. This experience fueled her natural love of words and language, and also taught her to appreciate other cultures.
Kathryn values gratitude, teaching, learning, differences, and unity. She loves looking at star-filled skies, reading mind-stretching books, listening to contemporary Christian music, attending the temple, and eating fresh raspberries.
Kathryn teaches Sunday family history classes at the BYU Family History Library, and presents frequently at family history events. For more information, visit her Family History Learning Resources page