The
Saturday before Thanksgiving, Fluffy answered the door three times.
This in itself was a little out of the ordinary, because Fluffy
generally hides from door-knockers. You never know who’s going
to be on the end of that knocking fist — a salesman, for
example, or even a missionary from one of those crazy churches out
there.
But
on Saturday, Fluffy answered the door three times, and on all three
occasions the knocker was somebody we knew and loved, and on all
three occasions the knocker was somebody who was performing a
surprise act of service for Fluffy and me. Three of them — all
in one day! That’s one of the bizarre things that happen when
you turn into an old person. It is also fairly common in our church,
where the members really do look out for each other.
The
first incident had a crazy story attached to it. John, one of our
home teachers, came to our door with a pan of funeral potatoes and a
bag of salad greens. This was a real treat. Who doesn’t love
funeral potatoes (unless they are actually made to accompany a
funeral, which is not near as fun)?
I
have mentioned John in this column before.
He does a lot of traveling, and he sends us selfies wherever he
goes. The last time he went to Kuala Lumpur, he took a picture with
the Petronas Towers behind him and I said he looked jowly. This time
he was careful to crop off the bottom of his face so his jowls did
not show. He has an endearing sense of humor, even when he does not
bring funeral potatoes.
John does not usually have jowls, but just in case he cropped off the bottom of his face when he took a picture of himself with the
Petronas Towers in the background. He did not want accusations to fly.
We
asked John why he brought us a fresh pan of funeral potatoes on a
Saturday morning, and he said it was due to a slight
misunderstanding on the part of his
wife, Michelle. Michelle is the visiting teacher of a lady who does
not ever come to church. Unfortunately, the lady’s husband got
an E. coli infection and died from it last week. Naturally Michelle
asked what she could do.
Somehow
the message that Michelle got was that the funeral would be held in
Baltimore, and they would need salad and funeral potatoes to feed 200
people. Michelle rolled up her sleeves and did just that. With the
help of her two daughters, she did a funeral potato assembly line.
She made thousands
of them, and bought many bags of salad greens to accompany them.
Surprise!
It was only after she was up to her ears in funeral potatoes that
she learned that the two hundred funeral attendees were going to be
eating African food. Michelle had only been asked to make enough
potatoes and salad to feed two people — the mother and father
of the woman she visit-taught, who preferred more traditional funeral
foods.
Funeral
potatoes, anyone?
I
was upstairs working when John arrived, so I had him schlep himself
upstairs to the second floor and visit with Fluffy and me in my
office, just because it’s so hard for me to get downstairs. It
was only after we had been visiting for a half hour or so that he
confessed he had just gotten out of the hospital after having hernia
surgery.
Indeed,
the only reason he was able to escape with the funeral food for us
was that Michelle was up in Baltimore attending the funeral with two
hundred Africans. John was supposed to be lying in his sickbed,
recuperating. He wasn’t even going to church on Sunday. We
promised to not tell Michelle about his transgression.
It’s
not often that you have somebody who is so intent on doing a good
work for you that he will get out of his sickbed to bring you funeral
potatoes. John is a man among men. But this was not the first thing
he had done for us this week. Oh no.
An
earlier email he had sent us this week had said, “I stopped by
on Saturday to do some raking for you but it looked like the backyard
was done so I finished raking the leaves from under your deck
and disposed of the big pile of leaves by the deck. Then I
raked and mowed your front yard.”
Where
do you even get
home teachers like that? All I can say is, when the home teacher and
visiting teacher programs were being designed, John and Michelle were
the people they were thinking about as the poster boy and the poster
girl for what the perfect home teacher and visiting teacher should
be. They don’t get any better
than that.
I’m
just glad they don’t read my column, because I don’t
think either one of them would be happy about all the publicity. And
I also
think John would be in trouble if Michelle found out he’d gone
out in the car and climbed our stairs when he was supposed to be flat
on his back in bed on Saturday morning. That’s what I
think. So, friends of John and Michelle, mum’s the word.
But
this was only the first visit we received. In the late afternoon, we
got a knock on the door from a friend with a leaf-blower, just
letting us know he was on the premises blowing leaves.
This
was the second time this week he had done so, but we had not been
home last time. We were out of town when Jeff had come previously,
but John’s email had said it “looked like the backyard
was done.” Yes, it was done because Jeff had done it.
Jeff
had blown every last leaf off our yard with such precision it looked
as though we lived on a golf course. He got rid of the walnuts too,
no doubt to the consternation of the squirrels who lived in the trees
in our yard. But he was back for an encore. And he, too, came
inside for a welcome visit. We treated him to some funeral potatoes,
and then he got back to work.
No
doubt the squirrels were disgruntled.
Less
than an hour later, our friend Jim, also from church, came over with
a loaf of bread from Great Harvest Bread Company. He did not come in
for a visit. He knocked. He gave Clark a loaf of bread. He left.
No reason. He just did it. Amazing.
We
are told to give acts of service. Giving acts of service is what we
do as followers of Christ. The very act of becoming a Christian
implies learning to give — to stretch one’s hand out in
an act of service, not just once, but often. Not just daily, but
more than once a day. Giving acts of service becomes a way of life.
It becomes who we are.
What
we often forget is that every act of service has an implied
recipient. Somebody has to be on the receiving end.
Unfortunately,
we tend to ignore the receiving part. Indeed, we often pride
ourselves on how independent we are from needing any help from
others. We can be lying in bed with a broken leg and no food in the
refrigerator and flatly refuse any help from friends who offer to
bring over a pot of soup.
But
in refusing to accept help when we need it, we are refusing to allow
people to give service, and we are refusing to learn humility by
learning to accept service.
This
was a hard lesson for me to learn, but God has an impish little sense
of humor about things like this. He calls it “old age.”
As age-related maladies make us more and more helpless, it gets
pretty much impossible to say no. So visits from people like John
and Jeff and Jim are no longer impositions ─ they are godsends.
And I mean that literally, so I guess I’ll capitalize it.
They are sent from God.
Hebrews
13:2 says, “Be
not forgetful to entertain strangers: for thereby some have
entertained angels unawares.” We are not unaware. When Fluffy
opens our door to the Johns and the Jims and the Jeffs of the world,
he knows full well Whose messengers they are. And we are grateful
every day that they have the ears to listen to His inspiring voice,
and the willingness to act upon His suggestions.
Kathryn H. Kidd has been writing fiction, nonfiction, and "anything for money" longer than
most of her readers have even been alive. She has something to say on every topic, and the
possibility that her opinions may be dead wrong has never stopped her from expressing them at
every opportunity.
A native of New Orleans, Kathy grew up in Mandeville, Louisiana. She attended Brigham
Young University as a generic Protestant, having left the Episcopal Church when she was eight
because that church didn't believe what she did. She joined The Church of Jesus Christ of
Latter-day Saints as a BYU junior, finally overcoming her natural stubbornness because she
wanted a patriarchal blessing and couldn't get one unless she was a member of the Church. She
was baptized on a Saturday and received her patriarchal blessing two days later.
She married Clark L. Kidd, who appears in her columns as "Fluffy," more than thirty-five
years ago. They are the authors of numerous LDS-related books, the most popular of which is A
Convert's Guide to Mormon Life.
A former managing editor for Meridian Magazine, Kathy moderated a weekly column ("Circle of Sisters") for Meridian until she was derailed by illness in December of 2012. However, her biggest claim to fame is that she co-authored
Lovelock with Orson Scott Card. Lovelock has been translated into Spanish and Polish, which
would be a little more gratifying than it actually is if Kathy had been referred to by her real name
and not "Kathryn Kerr" on the cover of the Polish version.
Kathy has her own website, www.planetkathy.com, where she hopes to get back to writing a weekday blog once she recovers from being dysfunctional. Her entries recount her adventures and misadventures with Fluffy, who heroically
allows himself to be used as fodder for her columns at every possible opportunity.
Kathy spent seven years as a teacher of the Young Women in her ward, until she was recently released. She has not yet gotten used to interacting with the adults, and suspects it may take another seven years. A long-time home teacher with her husband, Clark, they have home taught the same family since 1988. The two of them have been temple workers since 1995, serving in the Washington D.C. Temple.