Recently,
I was challenged to come up with fifteen reasons why I should be
grateful to be alive. This was the trend o’ the week on
Facebook, and I was only glad to just have to come up with fifteen of
them. I could have just as easily come up with a hundred, but that
would have made for too long a column.
Here
they are, in no particular order.
1.I am eternally grateful for the best friend I can see, Fluffy.
Fluffy makes every day an adventure, even on the days when we just
sit with our arms around each other watching reality TV.
Fluffy
held my hand for twelve days when I was unconscious in a hospital,
and he's been my caregiver ever since. He has not strangled me even
though he has wanted to, and that takes an act of unbridled patience.
He is a saint in a bunny suit, and I am so glad we get to spend
eternity together. Team Bunny rules!
2.I am equally
grateful for the best friend I can't see, who is God. That may
seem strange, but I spent a long time in several hospitals with
nobody else to talk to. I was too weak to read or even to turn on a
television, and He kept me company. I will always treasure that time
we spent together. It was so sacred to me that I was sad to go home,
and for that reason alone I will never regret those three months
spent in the hospital.
3.I am eternally grateful
for the home where we live. To this day, people sometimes sniff,
"This house is too big for two people," but I know it was
hand-picked by God just for Fluffy and me, and I am grateful for it.
For
years, for example, I used to laugh about the bizarre shape of the
powder room on our main floor. There was absolutely no reason a
powder room needed to have that weird shape. Now I see that it is
absolutely — to the inch — the shape and size that
is needed to accommodate my wheelchair. And the pedestal sink I
always hated is perfect for me to roll up to and wash my hair.
Everything
about that house was designed just for us. I am continually amazed at
it, and grateful for it every day. I can't think of a more beautiful
surrounding to live in as I recuperate. I face every day with joy.
4.Sisters. I have two of them. They could not be more
different.
Sandee
is one of the wittiest people on the planet. I will never forget the
day she acted as auctioneer when we divided up our late father's
possessions. Never mind that she wanted to take it all back
afterwards; she was so funny that if we'd recorded it she could have
gotten a Hollywood contract.
Susie,
on the other hand, is gentle and sweet and wildly creative. She once
counted her tinkles for an entire year and then sent me a postcard
that said, simply: "1492, and that's no s**t." Susie got
the personality I always wanted. Bummer.
5.
The time we live in. I am so glad to have been born when I was.
I am old enough to remember the olden days before color television
(almost before black and white television) and certainly old
enough to have been taught proper grammar in school, but young enough
to be able to take advantage of modern technology.
I
love TiVos and the Spaloo and digital cameras and the tablet that has
my scriptures and my Kindle on it and everything else technology has
to offer...well, with the exception of cell phones. You can keep your
cell phones, thank you. What a pain they are!
6.
Priesthood blessings. How can I even explain priesthood
blessings to people who aren't Mormons? Just imagine having God tell
you exactly what he wants you to hear, word for word, and your being
able to hear it and even (if you're so inclined) to write it down
afterwards.
Bill
Gates, with all his billions of dollars, can't buy what Latter-day
Saints get for free. Priesthood blessings have saved my life, and I
know it.
But
more than that, priesthood blessings have told me important things
that I need to know about the future of my life. I have made many
course changes based on priesthood blessings. I have most of my
priesthood blessings written down verbatim, and then laminated. They
are for nobody’s eyes but mine (and Fluffy’s if he wants
to see them), but they are scripture to me.
7.
I am grateful for friends.
When
Fluffy and I got married, our Mormon bishop told us to always choose
weird friends. He said people who try to be like everyone else aren't
worth much, and you'll always get joy out of eccentric friends. We
followed his advice and have never been sorry.
You
crazy people out there, we're glad we picked you. You have made our
lives memorable, to say the least. I could make a list of the crazy
friends we have, but you'd never believe us — and then you'd
spot yourself as being one of them and you might realize for the
first time that you aren't "normal" so I won't bother.
Thanks for all of you.
8.
I am grateful for computers. As a writer, computers comprise most
of my life. I remember the day that when I needed to learn something,
I had to walk to the University of Utah library to look it up. Now I
get on Google at least a dozen times a day.
This
is a miracle to me that people of this generation will never
understand. Word processors are another miracle to anyone who grew up
using manual typewriters and carbon paper. Computers may be a toy to
some people, or a mechanism for playing games to others. To me, they
are my entire professional life.
9.
I am grateful for finding The
Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
more than 40 years ago. A lot of people say a church is a church.
Not so, this one — at least, not for me. This church is a
culture, a support system, and a religion, all rolled into one. I
can't think of a single thing I don't like about being a Mormon, but
I don't want to push it on anyone. If you're interested, you know
where to find me.
10.
I'm grateful for adversity. I know that sounds weird, but I've
never said I wasn't eccentric! Everyone knows the cliché that
whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger, but it's only a cliché
because it's true. Thanks to the adversity I've had in my life, I'm a
rock (you notice I did not say I'm a rock star), and I'm
grateful for that.
11.I'm grateful for my relatives, both the living ones and the ones
who are no longer on the leafy side of the turf. Facebook has
gotten me better acquainted with the living ones, and I'm glad about
that.
As
for the dead ones — well, that's interesting. I had always
heard about guardian angels, but I came back from my twelve-day "nap"
acutely aware that relatives on the other side were working hard on
my behalf. I hope to meet them (or meet them again) one day
and thank them for what they did, and what they are still doing, on
behalf of Fluffy and me.
We
Mormons have been told we've only got a third of it, and we'll only
get the other two-thirds when we're worthy to read it. This drives me
crazy. I want to tell the other Mormons to shape up
(because, of course, I'm doing everything right and the condemnation
can't possibly apply to me) so we'll get the rest. But they
don't, so we only have the skinny part. Bummer.
13.I am grateful for unanswered prayers. If my prayers were
answered, I'd be skinny and healthy and rich — and I wouldn't
have learned any of the lessons in life I'm supposed to be learning.
Since
the whole reason we've been put here is to learn lessons, my whole
life would have been pointless. So I guess I'm glad that despite all
the tears and temper tantrums, God has left a lot of my most fervent
prayers unanswered.
14.
I am grateful for just enough travel to have shown me just how
fortunate I am to live in the USA. For those of you Americans who
don't appreciate your native land, I challenge you to go out and do a
little humanitarian work in another country. Maybe Haiti, where
Fluffy and I saw people living in "houses" that consisted
of four poles with corrugated metal roofs. The furniture consisted of
logs.
And
this was before the earthquake.
We
may waste a lot of our tax money, but a lot or our tax money that
isn't wasted goes to help people in countries like Haiti.
That's when I'm proudest to be an American.
15.
Finally, I am grateful for my body. For most of my life I have
hated my body, because it has not just been fat — it has been
uber-fat. And it has not been uber-fat because of anything I
have done to make it so; it has been uber-fat because I gained 140
pounds in six months all of its own accord.
People
have treated me with disgust and revulsion, and I have treated myself
the same way. Then, when I was in the hospital a year and a half ago,
I got a priesthood blessing that said I chose this body before I was
born.
The
priesthood blessing didn't say why I chose this body, but
apparently I needed to learn lessons (I would assume humility!) that
I could learn no other way. Maybe the people around me needed to
learn lessons too.
Since
the priesthood blessing, I have come to terms with my body. It has
certainly taken me on many adventures! I can't say I'm not looking
forward to the next life, when I'll be pretty again. But as for this
life, at least I don't hate myself as much as I used to. My body and
I are in it for the long haul, and it and I and Fluffy are having a
lot of fun together as we see how I’ll get in trouble
next.
Okay, people, that's it for me. Reading the list over,
I am surprised that no food items made the list. Where was
chocolate? Where was Dungeness crab? Where was Popeye’s
chicken? People, you who have seen me know that food is there.
I like food. Food is my friend.
So
are thunderstorms, in all their majesty. I’m really big on
rain. And also …
Oh,
rats. If I don’t stop now, I’m never going to quit.
There are just too many great things in this wonderful world.
Thanks
to all of you who have read my chronicle of gratitude. Maybe it has
inspired you to think of the things you are grateful for, too.
Kathryn H. Kidd has been writing fiction, nonfiction, and "anything for money" longer than
most of her readers have even been alive. She has something to say on every topic, and the
possibility that her opinions may be dead wrong has never stopped her from expressing them at
every opportunity.
A native of New Orleans, Kathy grew up in Mandeville, Louisiana. She attended Brigham
Young University as a generic Protestant, having left the Episcopal Church when she was eight
because that church didn't believe what she did. She joined The Church of Jesus Christ of
Latter-day Saints as a BYU junior, finally overcoming her natural stubbornness because she
wanted a patriarchal blessing and couldn't get one unless she was a member of the Church. She
was baptized on a Saturday and received her patriarchal blessing two days later.
She married Clark L. Kidd, who appears in her columns as "Fluffy," more than thirty-five
years ago. They are the authors of numerous LDS-related books, the most popular of which is A
Convert's Guide to Mormon Life.
A former managing editor for Meridian Magazine, Kathy moderated a weekly column ("Circle of Sisters") for Meridian until she was derailed by illness in December of 2012. However, her biggest claim to fame is that she co-authored
Lovelock with Orson Scott Card. Lovelock has been translated into Spanish and Polish, which
would be a little more gratifying than it actually is if Kathy had been referred to by her real name
and not "Kathryn Kerr" on the cover of the Polish version.
Kathy has her own website, www.planetkathy.com, where she hopes to get back to writing a weekday blog once she recovers from being dysfunctional. Her entries recount her adventures and misadventures with Fluffy, who heroically
allows himself to be used as fodder for her columns at every possible opportunity.
Kathy spent seven years as a teacher of the Young Women in her ward, until she was recently released. She has not yet gotten used to interacting with the adults, and suspects it may take another seven years. A long-time home teacher with her husband, Clark, they have home taught the same family since 1988. The two of them have been temple workers since 1995, serving in the Washington D.C. Temple.