If
there’s one thing we on the East Coast are known for, it’s
our spectacular autumns. So I was somewhat surprised by something
that happened as we were driving to the temple in late August. As we
rounded a corner, two yellow leaves, in tandem, jumped off a tree in
front of us and committed joint suicide in front of our car.
It
was still August, for heaven’s sake. The temperatures were
still warm and there wasn’t a yellow leaf anywhere in sight
with the exception of these two. We had not yet experienced Labor
Day weekend, although it was just around the corner. There was no
reason except for pure laziness that those two leaves were jumping
off their tree to an early death.
But
those two leaves turned out to be prophetic leaves, telling us ahead
of time to expect an armpit of an autumn. We are in the midst of it
as I write these words. Leaves aren’t turning all colors of
orange and gold. They’re just turning yellow, shriveling up,
and then diving right off the trees. Some are skipping the yellow
part altogether and are just shriveling up and dropping in their
tracks.
Usually
as autumn progresses, Fluffy and I drive from one place to the next
amid a profusion of color. We applaud the trees — or rather he
points out the exceptional trees and I do the clapping for both of
us. If he took his hands on the wheel to join in the applause, we
might end up wrapped around a tree trunk, which would be somewhat
defeating the purpose.
This
year we have applauded a grand total of (pardon me while I do the
official count) one tree. It’s still early in the season, but
one tree is pathetic. We should have lost count by now. The trees
around us should be a riot of color.
In
fact, my October calendar picture shows the view that should be
outside the window of our dining room — the window immediately
next to me. As you can see, the palette is something that is so
impressive it was put on this year’s calendar by
calendar-creator Fluffy. Right now, the same view is, well, green.
Bummer.
The view from our dining room, last October.
When
we were at the temple last week, the missionaries who work there
full-time told us their excursion to the Shenandoah National Forest
had been canceled this year, not because of the government shutdown
but because there was no point in taking the hour-plus drive to see
the leaves when the leaves were not performing. If people wanted to
see ho-hum leaves, they could wait till next year and see them at
home (wherever their homes may be).
We
may be disappointed to see a bad leaf year this year, but we can
hardly be surprised. At least in our area, 2013 was the mildest of
summers. There was a week or two of scalding temperatures, but most
of the days were temperate. The humidity wasn’t horrible.
There was enough rain that our lawns didn’t even die out, so
even the grass and the flowers were happy.
Oh,
did we rejoice that we were not miserable all summer long! Oh, were
we delighted that Fluffy’s daily walks were not fraught with
misery! Oh, were we thrilled that the front of our house, where our
“temporary” bedroom is located, was cool enough that we
only had to use a fan to supplement the air-conditioner once or twice
all summer! Oh, were we happy that the humidity was so low that we
did not wilt every time Fluffy opened the door!
Oh,
were we deceiving ourselves! What we knew, but chose to ignore, was
that a bearable summer does not make for a spectacular autumn.
We
were reminded just recently by President Thomas S. Monson, that it
takes adversity to make good things. A poem-quoting prophet, he
said,
Good timber does not grow with ease:
The stronger wind, the stronger trees;
The further sky, the greater length;
The more the storm, the more the strength.
By sun and cold, by rain and snow,
In trees and men good timbers grow.
Some
of this year’s lazy leaf crop has taunted us. As I write this,
a whole herd of leaves has wrinkled into brown blobs and blown onto
our front doorstep, proclaiming shamelessly to us that they didn’t
have any adversity in their short lives, and they didn’t have
anything to show for it. If they could have found little cigarettes,
I’m sure they would have smoked them in defiance when we
opened the door, blown smoke rings in our faces (or, rather, at our
toes) and said belligerently, “So there.”
But
at the same time, we only had to look up to see that one tiny leaf
bucked the tide. Unlike its brothers, it turned a brilliant shade of
red, leaped from its host tree, and landed in the screen on one of
our bedroom windows. There it flapped merrily in the wind last week,
grabbing my attention in the autumn sunlight and reminding me that
even in a drab and ugly autumn, beauty is going to be there for the
beholder. This brave little leaf also reminded me that there is
often wisdom in not following the crowd.
No matter how drab the rest of the season may or may not be, this one little leaf got the right idea.
Like
that one beautiful leaf, you and I do not have to be content with a
lifetime of mediocrity. We were born for good things and destined
for great ones.
When
adversity comes to us, as it inevitably will, we do not have to curl
into a ball and let it defeat us. Instead, we can choose to let it
define us. We can let it make us who the Lord wants us to be —
His chosen sons and daughters. We can choose to let every storm be
an opportunity for growth and refinement and become, in the words of
my dear husband Fluffy, “stronger and more beautiful every
day.”
Kathryn H. Kidd has been writing fiction, nonfiction, and "anything for money" longer than
most of her readers have even been alive. She has something to say on every topic, and the
possibility that her opinions may be dead wrong has never stopped her from expressing them at
every opportunity.
A native of New Orleans, Kathy grew up in Mandeville, Louisiana. She attended Brigham
Young University as a generic Protestant, having left the Episcopal Church when she was eight
because that church didn't believe what she did. She joined The Church of Jesus Christ of
Latter-day Saints as a BYU junior, finally overcoming her natural stubbornness because she
wanted a patriarchal blessing and couldn't get one unless she was a member of the Church. She
was baptized on a Saturday and received her patriarchal blessing two days later.
She married Clark L. Kidd, who appears in her columns as "Fluffy," more than thirty-five
years ago. They are the authors of numerous LDS-related books, the most popular of which is A
Convert's Guide to Mormon Life.
A former managing editor for Meridian Magazine, Kathy moderated a weekly column ("Circle of Sisters") for Meridian until she was derailed by illness in December of 2012. However, her biggest claim to fame is that she co-authored
Lovelock with Orson Scott Card. Lovelock has been translated into Spanish and Polish, which
would be a little more gratifying than it actually is if Kathy had been referred to by her real name
and not "Kathryn Kerr" on the cover of the Polish version.
Kathy has her own website, www.planetkathy.com, where she hopes to get back to writing a weekday blog once she recovers from being dysfunctional. Her entries recount her adventures and misadventures with Fluffy, who heroically
allows himself to be used as fodder for her columns at every possible opportunity.
Kathy spent seven years as a teacher of the Young Women in her ward, until she was recently released. She has not yet gotten used to interacting with the adults, and suspects it may take another seven years. A long-time home teacher with her husband, Clark, they have home taught the same family since 1988. The two of them have been temple workers since 1995, serving in the Washington D.C. Temple.