I love the hymn “Be
Thou Humble,” which is a testament to the blessings of being
led by the Lord when we keep the wolves of temporal wistfulness —
or foolish thought that we can accomplish what’s needed here
without the help of heaven.
What are my weaknesses?
I’ve spent time and effort pondering and focusing on them,
putting them in their place (as best I can) and leaning on that
Everlasting Arm for strength. I’ve also kicked against the
pricks more than a few times in my life. For my trouble, I’ve
prolonged the lessons Father would have me learn — and it has
been anything but fun.
Why, when I know
better, do I sometimes stomp my proverbial foot, so to speak, letting
pride go before the next fall? I don’t know, except that
I’m reminded I have miles to go before I get where I’m
going.
These comments from
President Gordon B. Hinckley are so soothing — so comforting —
when we are seeking to be humble as followers of a real God and a
real Savior, trying to keep the faith while we enjoy the mortal ride:
“This
is my prayer for all of us — 'Lord, increase our faith.'
Increase our faith to bridge the chasms of uncertainty and doubt…
Grant us faith to look beyond the problems of the moment to the
miracles of the future… Give us faith to do what is right and
let the consequence follow.” (“Lord, Increase Our Faith,”
General Conference, October 1987)
Humility and faith go
together. The more humble and teachable we are, the more we can
acquire traits that come from the One Source of best blessings and
goodness. There is more faith inside us to help us grab hold of those
blessings, and add to them.
Among the ways we can
become really is in the calling of being a parent. Sheesh. I’ve
never felt less prepared, more overwhelmed, or inadequate than in
trying to shepherd my children. To bite the tongue, to see from their
point of view, to look heavenward when I have no clue how to deal
with a current situation, or teach with loving power the things that
must be offered.
Turns out, parenthood
is a grand course in humility and love. It is the way I’ve most
realized that if I want progress in meaningful ways with my children,
regardless of age, I need the Lord’s guidance. I need to be
humble — really humble.
Humility has brought me
hope when I felt none; it has granted me peace when the winds of
adversity are blowing; it has burst through clouds of sadness and
brought gladness. How great is that?
We are not bound by
circumstance! Circumstances may bow to us, when we have the faith and
will allow ourselves to be led by a loving Father, through the gift
of the Holy Ghost. Slowly, eventually, we can tie ourselves tightly
to the Savior and ride the difficult moment while not being dictated
— in negative and destructive ways — to the circumstances
of our lives.
Somehow, this article
turned out to be more like a Sunday School lesson today. I hope it
doesn’t sound like I’m up on my soapbox. At least, I hope
the soapbox is one that isn’t offensive. I’m just
genuinely grateful for the knowing of humility.
When I don’t
use it properly, it’s my fault. When I do, I feel the
internal tide change. I feel the hope. I can take the chastisement
with gratitude. And I can keep on keeping on. That’s a
really good thing.
Vickey Pahnke Taylor is a wife, mom, grandmother, teacher, author, and songwriter. Her
undergraduate study at BYU was musical theater. She has a Masters degree in interpersonal
communications.
A Billboard award-winning songwriter with hundreds of songs to her credit, she uses music as a
teaching tool. But her favorite way to use music has been to sing to her children. You should
hear the family's rousing versions of "Happy Birthday"!
In addition to three solo albums in the LDS market, she co-wrote "Women at the Well" with
Kenneth Cope and "My Beloved Christ: with Randy Kartchner. She is co-writer of the theme
song for Utah's Make-A-Wish foundation, the song for the Special Olympics program, and
EFY's theme song.
She writes for several online magazines and columns, and has authored several books. Her
website, www.goodnessmatters.com, is her way of continuing to grow goodness in the world,
pointing people gently toward Christ and eternal principles of truth.
She has spoken for the Church's various Youth and Family programs for 25 years. She and her
husband Dean have eight children and four grandchildren. She adores being a wife, mom and
grandmother. She loves flowers, brownies, cooking Italian and Southern foods, the ocean, and
laughing every chance she gets.
Vickey was baptized a member of the Church as a teenager in Virginia. She serves as gospel
doctrine teacher in her ward, and Dean serves on their stake high council.