Remember
the movie Sweet Home Alabama? The opening scene showed a young girl
and fella on the beach. Near the very end of this movie, we see them
back on that same beach – in the dark, with lightning flashing
all around.
The
male character says, “Why do you want to marry me, anyhow?”
To
which the female character replies, “So I can kiss you anytime
I want.”
Anytime
I want…. There is plenty to think about in those words. Often
I ponder over this priceless gift of agency – the ability to
choose… anytime we want.
While
many have been swallowed in the world because they “Get to do
whatever they want”, deeper study makes clear what is meant by
free agency: It’s not a matter of “I get to do what I
want” – though this mortal mission allows us the option.
No,
the concept of free agency according to scripture, the words of
living prophets, and the echoes from our own souls, is built upon a
nobler seed of eternal truth.
Because
we are free “according to the flesh”, we are "free
to choose liberty and eternal life, through the great Mediator of all
men, or to choose captivity and death, according to the captivity and
power of the devil" (2 Nephi 2:27).
When
I first began reading 2 Nephi as a teen-aged investigator of the
Church, this chapter mesmerized me. While I knew there was a lot more
to ponder over, I just didn’t ‘get’ it. Now I see
more clearly:
We
are here to choose, freely, whether or not we’ll determine to
seek for eternal life and righteousness, or choose (yes!) for
whatever myriad of reasons, to choose a lesser route…
“according to the captivity and power of the devil; for he
seeketh that all men might be miserable like unto himself.” (2
Nephi 2:27)
I
didn’t begin this thought to pound out a sermon. I’m in
no position to stand on a soapbox and cry out, “Pay attention!
Do you see that we choose,
hundreds of times daily, our thoughts and words and actions?!? Small
choices – freely made – determine whether or not we’re
really free!”
But
I want
to
stand up and do that, many times. Acckkk… I want to whisper it
in my children’s ears, glue it into my grandchildren’s
minds so they have to roll it around and really look
at it and understand.
I want to
“make”
my friends and loved ones better understand freedom!
That’s
not the plan though, is it?
For
all the times we sit and stew over “poor me”, President
Gordon B. Hinckley basically said [and, of course, he’s right]
that we’re merely being selfish and thinking only of self. If
it’s what we’re
choosing,
we are free to go that route.
The
plan, when we can grab hold of it and keep it in our mind and heart,
is based on the next scripture in 2 Nephi… the only directly
following verse 27:
“And
now, my sons, I would that ye should look to the great Mediator, and
hearken unto his great commandments; and be faithful unto his words,
and choose eternal life, according to the will of his Holy Spirit.”
(2 Nephi 2:28)
Freedom
– real freedom – is linked to choosing purposely to do
the right thing. To be in harmony with the Holy Spirit. To
want to, to need to, to
choose to do what is good and right.
Many
folks debate over the words or phrasing… Free agency? Agency?
Moral agency? Here’s my take, realizing that I’m no
authority:
Toss
out the bickering over exact wording (although it is certainly
important to determine, dissect, and define scriptural words) and go
according to the feeling of the matter. And to the scriptural
counsel. The key? Asking for heavenly direction, and moving
accordingly. This part is crucial.
Here
– I’ll share a beautiful thought from Mikhail Bakunin,
who was a Russian anarchist. Here’s a man who ‘got’
the principle of real freedom, but he left out the part about moving
according to the Holy Spirit:
“Freedom,
morality, and the human dignity of the individual consists precisely
in this; that he does good not because he is forced to do so, but
because he freely conceives it, wants it, and loves it.”
That
sounds great, right? But as he got lost in his thoughts and caught up
in the world’s goings-on, his ‘freedom’ took him
off course. I’m not pointing an accusing finger, nor making
judgment. My point is simply this:
With
the best core of understanding, the guidance of the Holy Ghost is
absolutely necessary. Which would indicate we try to keep our vibe
pure enough to enjoy the association of the Holy Spirit. Key word:
Try.
It
may feel as though I’m all over the map here. It is sometimes
hard to pour into words the feelings
that come from a better place – and
words are inadequate. I’m probably falling short … Mark
Twain’s words are taunting me a bit:
“The
difference between the almost right word and the right word is really
a large matter – 'tis the difference between the lightning bug
and the lightning.”
So,
consider me the lightning bug. And go after the lightning, by way of
heavenly guidance.
Freedom
is precious. Choosing righteously – even when friends or
circumstances or worldly standards are teasing, inviting, or
taunting. That’s freedom.
Choosing
to do the right thing “whenever we want to” takes on an
even more noble feeling. Because of Jesus Christ’s role and
gift, we can freely choose. That comes with all kinds of mistakes and
missteps. By our own experience, we gain an understanding of right
and wrong, or good and evil. Falling into the stinky mud, we can
choose to stand up and shake it off, clean it up, and make a better
choice next time.
Eventually,
it can become easier and more joyful to choose – freely –
to do our Father’s bidding. Not because we ‘have’
to but because we ‘want’ to. Life teaches us that His way
really is the best way.
There
is divine advice to decipher in 2 Nephi 2: 27-28. To work at doing
the right thing “because we want to” brings a lot more
goodness to this mortal journey.
Vickey Pahnke Taylor is a wife, mom, grandmother, teacher, author, and songwriter. Her
undergraduate study at BYU was musical theater. She has a Masters degree in interpersonal
communications.
A Billboard award-winning songwriter with hundreds of songs to her credit, she uses music as a
teaching tool. But her favorite way to use music has been to sing to her children. You should
hear the family's rousing versions of "Happy Birthday"!
In addition to three solo albums in the LDS market, she co-wrote "Women at the Well" with
Kenneth Cope and "My Beloved Christ: with Randy Kartchner. She is co-writer of the theme
song for Utah's Make-A-Wish foundation, the song for the Special Olympics program, and
EFY's theme song.
She writes for several online magazines and columns, and has authored several books. Her
website, www.goodnessmatters.com, is her way of continuing to grow goodness in the world,
pointing people gently toward Christ and eternal principles of truth.
She has spoken for the Church's various Youth and Family programs for 25 years. She and her
husband Dean have eight children and four grandchildren. She adores being a wife, mom and
grandmother. She loves flowers, brownies, cooking Italian and Southern foods, the ocean, and
laughing every chance she gets.
Vickey was baptized a member of the Church as a teenager in Virginia. She serves as gospel
doctrine teacher in her ward, and Dean serves on their stake high council.