"We seldom get into trouble when we speak softly. It is only when we raise our voices that the sparks fly and tiny molehills become great mountains of contention."
Fluffy
and I just returned from a few days in Virginia Beach, a quiet little
town that is (as its name implies) on the ocean. On Sunday we took a
trip up the boardwalk, braving the bitter cold to see the sights.
Most
of the sights on this vacation consisted of Christmas decorations.
Every year, starting on Thanksgiving, the town of Virginia Beach
closes the boardwalk to foot traffic every night so cars can drive
down the thoroughfare and people can see the Christmas displays. This
year’s motif was the Twelve Days of Christmas, and our hotel
room overlooked “Seven Swans A-Swimming.”
The view from our balcony at night.
During
the day, the lights weren’t on and the displays were far from
impressive. But at the end of our trip we stumbled across a monument
we had not seen before. This larger-than-life bronze sculpture
contained three figures — a white male, a black male, and a
female. As we approached the sculpture we learned that this was a
memorial to Virginia Beach’s fallen law enforcement officials.
Two of the three law enforcement figures in the Virginia Beach memorial.
There
was a series of pillars surrounding the sculpture, and as we got
close we saw that the pillars contained memorials to individuals who
had lost their lives keeping Virginia Beach safe. The first one I
read was dedicated to a man who had been deputized to arrest a man
who had stolen a firearm. Within hours of being deputized, he tried
to arrest the thief and got shot in the neck and the head for his
efforts.
I
wondered what kind of sheriff would deputize a man off the street to
do, well, a sheriff’s work. Then I reread the text and saw that
this event had occurred in 1898. That explained things. People got
deputized more often back then than they do today. At least, I
suppose this was the case because I’ve never heard of this
happening in my lifetime, but it apparently happened at least once
back then.
I
went to the next pillar and read the second fallen officer’s
story. He had died in 2006 — not from an act of violence, but
from a heart attack suffered when he was doing a training exercise.
In this case, it appeared that the man’s number was up, and he
just happened to be at work when it happened.
I
went to the next pillar to read the next story, but there wasn’t
a story on that pillar. There wasn’t a story on the next
pillar, or the next one, or the one after that. By the time I got all
away around the sculpture, I realized that in the history of Virginia
Beach, only two law enforcement officers had lost their lives on the
job. The fatalities were 108 years apart, and they involved a man who
really wasn’t a law enforcement officer and a man who was a law
enforcement officer but who wasn’t enforcing the law at the
time.
My
first impression at looking at this big memorial to two events that
were so far apart was one of amusement. The people who put up the
memorial were obviously planning ahead when they included a black
officer and a female in the memorial, because neither of the
fatalities so far was female or black.
But
then I understood it. The whole issue comes down to the meaning of
“sacrifice.” You don’t actually have to give
something up in order to sacrifice it; you just need to be willing to
do so.
Two
Biblical instances stand out. The first was Abraham’s sacrifice
of his son Isaac on the altar, back in the Old Testament. Abraham
built the altar; he gathered the wood to burn the offering after he
slew it; he trussed up his son and laid him on the altar. Then he
raised his sword to slay Isaac.
As
it turned out, God didn’t need Abraham to actually kill Isaac.
The only thing God needed was to know that Abraham was willing to do
it. Once Abraham had proven, however mournfully, that he would do as
God commanded, God provided the “lamb in the thicket” to
take Isaac’s place on the altar.
The
second sacrifice was the sacrifice that Jesus made to atone for our
sins. Most of Christendom believes that the sacrifice was made on the
cross. We who are Latter-day Saints understand that the actual
sacrifice was made on Mount Gethsemane, when Christ sacrificed His
will to that of the Father and bled from every pore (Luke 22:39-44).
The actual crucifixion only sealed the sacrifice that had already
been made.
When
I remembered those two scriptural examples, I realized it hasn’t
just been two men separated by more than a century who have
sacrificed themselves for the welfare of Virginia Beach — and
for the welfare of every town and city and rural area across the
land. Every law enforcement officer and every firefighter who has
been willing to go into a burning building or pull over a car that
may contain a felon with a gun has already made that sacrifice.
Every
member of the military who puts on a uniform, not knowing whether he
will live to take off that uniform at the end of the day, has made
that sacrifice too.
It
comes from an acceptance that you’re doing your job even if it
means you never make it home at the end of your shift. It comes from
a pact made with a God they may not even believe in that, “Not
my will, but Thine, be done.”
This
may be a little late for Veterans Day, but today I’m thankful
for the people who have sacrificed their lives to keep me safe, both
at home and abroad. I’m grateful for the ones who actually were
killed in the line of duty, but I’m equally grateful for the
men and women who were willing to be killed, if that is what it took,
to keep the rest of us safe.
Kathryn H. Kidd has been writing fiction, nonfiction, and "anything for money" longer than
most of her readers have even been alive. She has something to say on every topic, and the
possibility that her opinions may be dead wrong has never stopped her from expressing them at
every opportunity.
A native of New Orleans, Kathy grew up in Mandeville, Louisiana. She attended Brigham
Young University as a generic Protestant, having left the Episcopal Church when she was eight
because that church didn't believe what she did. She joined The Church of Jesus Christ of
Latter-day Saints as a BYU junior, finally overcoming her natural stubbornness because she
wanted a patriarchal blessing and couldn't get one unless she was a member of the Church. She
was baptized on a Saturday and received her patriarchal blessing two days later.
She married Clark L. Kidd, who appears in her columns as "Fluffy," more than thirty-five
years ago. They are the authors of numerous LDS-related books, the most popular of which is A
Convert's Guide to Mormon Life.
A former managing editor for Meridian Magazine, Kathy moderated a weekly column ("Circle of Sisters") for Meridian until she was derailed by illness in December of 2012. However, her biggest claim to fame is that she co-authored
Lovelock with Orson Scott Card. Lovelock has been translated into Spanish and Polish, which
would be a little more gratifying than it actually is if Kathy had been referred to by her real name
and not "Kathryn Kerr" on the cover of the Polish version.
Kathy has her own website, www.planetkathy.com, where she hopes to get back to writing a weekday blog once she recovers from being dysfunctional. Her entries recount her adventures and misadventures with Fluffy, who heroically
allows himself to be used as fodder for her columns at every possible opportunity.
Kathy spent seven years as a teacher of the Young Women in her ward, until she was recently released. She has not yet gotten used to interacting with the adults, and suspects it may take another seven years. A long-time home teacher with her husband, Clark, they have home taught the same family since 1988. The two of them have been temple workers since 1995, serving in the Washington D.C. Temple.