A
few years ago, while in the shower, I got a strong impression to call
an eye doctor. Inspiration can come at the strangest times — or
maybe it’s one of the good things that come with having a few
minutes alone, in peaceful silence.
So,
after getting dressed, off to the computer I went, to find an
optometrist. After checking the eye pressures, and rechecking, his
blood pressure shot up. He sent me off to an ophthalmologist.
Jump
forward four years, four eye surgeries and hundreds of office visits
later. I’ve learned a few profound things — things, had
you asked me earlier in life, that I’d never have wanted to
learn. But lessons that have brought a great deal of goodness to my
life.
Here
are a few of them:
1.
We never know what a day will bring.
We
hear this all the time. But it doesn’t hit home until —
it hits home. This often occurs when something happens that tilts our
world as we’ve known it, or turns it upside down.
One
thing I’ve grown to “see” the need for is this:
Make the most of every single day. Keep the eyes wide open, so as not
to miss any of the tiny little gifts that come when the sun comes up.
Every
day, opening my eyes, I take note of things around me. They are the
same things I always see. Which is a good thing. It means the eye
lights haven’t gone out yet.
Then,
I wander around and take note: peeking out the window (with
sunglasses on) to see the morning sun; seeing the dog running around
in the grass; admiring my herbs growing just outside the back window;
enjoying my surroundings. Since I can’t see dust very well
these days, it’s an even more enjoyable experience to walk
through my house.
In
the blink of an eye, things can change. I don’t want to take
one bit of my life for granted, to feel like I’ve missed all
the little things that turn out to be — in the end — the
big things, or failed to see all that is placed in my purview. It’s
all a big ol’ blessing. If I’m not careful, I’ll
miss it.
2.
Good sight is not needed in order to see clearly.
As
the eyes dim, physically, the spiritual compensation seems to
strengthen. “I once was blind, but now I see” (from the
beautiful hymn “Amazing Grace”) are powerful words. Now,
they speak to me personally, in ways I never imagined before.
During
this eyesight loss, the ability to see more clearly in the Spirit
continues to grow. Not that I’m where I wish to be, but I’m
finally beginning to understand that the things that are most real
are the things that cannot be seen with the temporal eyes. Every day
brings another moment of clarity.
Good
sight is not needed in order to notice someone who needs prayers, a
hug, some simple gesture of recognition or acceptance. We can
clearly see the things that matter most — the ways that we can
help or bless — regardless of eyesight.
Because
these things are seen with the heart. Right?
3.
Even with really good doctors, faith in the Master Healer is the most
important.
Jesus
Christ knows how I feel after a bad office visit. The ones where I
receive less than stellar news. It happens lots. I’m aware that
He is aware. It makes a big difference and gives me the oomph to go
to the next visit full of hope for a better report.
Despite
what medical science says or what tests reveal, there is One who can
heal the lame and give sight to the blind. Whether or not my physical
sight remains during my entire mortal journey will be up to the will
of God. I’ll fight for it, though. And keep my faith in the
Savior, who — if I have the faith, and it is fitting in God’s
sight — may preserve what is left in the vision field.
Awesome!
“But
if not.…” Those are words from the scriptures I take to
heart. My most important job is to truly trust the Master Healer, and
to accept what the Lord places on my plate. They know what I need
more than I do. A good thing for me to remember when there’s an
incoming missile of life.
4.
“His eye is on the sparrow and I know He watches me.”
This
line of lyrics is from an older Christian hymn that I love. It
was one of my mom’s favorites. A couple of years after she
died, I was diagnosed with a cancerous lung mass. I sat in my
recliner one morning, seeking comfort (physically and spiritually),
missing my mom terribly, and staring at a little bird on a tree
limb.
The
doorbell rang, and I answered it to see a sweet neighbor standing
there. She held a glass sparrow in her hand. There was a tender story
attached to that figurine. It brought me comfort I needed, and
flooded me with the sense that I was genuinely being watched over.
She was the answer to a prayer I hadn’t even formally uttered.
But He was watching, and knew what I needed.
Many
times since that morning, when difficult things have come, there has
been the sweet knowing that a loving and watchful Eye is on me. So,
as long as He sees perfectly, it isn’t so important that my
eyes see perfectly! He’s watching. Always.
5.
Profound
experiences help me gain profound gratitude.
Trust
me when I say that the ability to see colors, sunrises or sunsets, my
family’s faces, and (although blurry) television, is a huge
blessing. I don’t take for granted this precious sense of
sight. Too bad I didn’t realize what I had when I had it.
Getting
to this point has been a sometimes heavy journey, with profoundly
tough moments, but with profound and vivid blessings. Is it that I
work harder to see things, or is it that I better appreciate those
things I’m able to see?
I’ve
always loved the mountains, the rivers and oceans, flowers, smiles.
But now — now, I have a profound thankfulness for being able to
see them. Maybe not so clearly as I once did, but definitely
with more gratitude and admiration.
Where
I once took for granted the ability to read as much as I desired, or
to easily distinguish objects at a distance (which distance may be
only 15 feet, by the way), I look (pun intended) forward to the day
when I can once again see as I used to.
It
will most likely be at the time of resurrection. Sight is one more
thing to look forward to regaining at that time! And meanwhile,
how grateful I am for the gift of sight!
I
feel gratitude for those things I see with my temporal eyes, and —
more importantly — those I see with my soul. In truth, the
things seen with the soul seem much more filled with goodness.
Vickey Pahnke Taylor is a wife, mom, grandmother, teacher, author, and songwriter. Her
undergraduate study at BYU was musical theater. She has a Masters degree in interpersonal
communications.
A Billboard award-winning songwriter with hundreds of songs to her credit, she uses music as a
teaching tool. But her favorite way to use music has been to sing to her children. You should
hear the family's rousing versions of "Happy Birthday"!
In addition to three solo albums in the LDS market, she co-wrote "Women at the Well" with
Kenneth Cope and "My Beloved Christ: with Randy Kartchner. She is co-writer of the theme
song for Utah's Make-A-Wish foundation, the song for the Special Olympics program, and
EFY's theme song.
She writes for several online magazines and columns, and has authored several books. Her
website, www.goodnessmatters.com, is her way of continuing to grow goodness in the world,
pointing people gently toward Christ and eternal principles of truth.
She has spoken for the Church's various Youth and Family programs for 25 years. She and her
husband Dean have eight children and four grandchildren. She adores being a wife, mom and
grandmother. She loves flowers, brownies, cooking Italian and Southern foods, the ocean, and
laughing every chance she gets.
Vickey was baptized a member of the Church as a teenager in Virginia. She serves as gospel
doctrine teacher in her ward, and Dean serves on their stake high council.