I'm always a little saddened when I hear a Christian say, "Since Jesus said to love your neighbor
as yourself, it logically follows that you must love yourself first."
This is what it means to mingle scripture with the doctrines of men in order to deceive people.
Yet many Christians utter this platitude without the slightest consciousness that they are saying
the exact opposite of Jesus' clear meaning.
Someone asked him, "Which is the great commandment in the law?"
He replied that the first and great commandment was to love the Lord with all your heart, soul,
and mind.
"And the second is like unto it," he continued. "Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On
these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets" (Matt. 22:36-39).
Jesus could easily have said, "Love the Lord, then look out for yourself, and only when your
own needs are fully met should you spare whatever time is left to help your neighbor." But he
didn't.
He could have said, "How can you give anything to other people until you've filled yourself
up?"
Didn't say that, either. Could've. Didn't.
To parse his words until they mean the opposite is like the tricks that his opponents always tried
to play on him.
Now, because worldly excuses for self-gratification have fogged our sight, let's put Jesus' plain
and simple words under the lens of understanding.
Jesus was the teacher who constantly drew a contrast between what people "naturally" do and
what the gospel now required them to do.
In the Sermon on the Mount, he taught, "You've heard it said, 'Love your neighbor and hate
your enemy.' But I say, 'Love your enemies'" (Matt. 5:43-44). Even the worst people love
those who love them, he explained. But I hold you to a higher standard.
He repeated this trope again and again. Does the law say not to kill? I tell you not to be angry.
Does the law say not to commit adultery? I say don't even allow yourself to lust after a woman
(Matt. 5:21-28).
Here is the natural man, says the Savior. Now here's what I expect of you.
Let's put that "love your neighbor as yourself" business in the same context.
The body always seeks to take care of its physical needs. When our body needs water, we feel
thirst until we get a drink. When our body needs to take in nourishment or get rid of waste, we
feel ever greater urgency until we meet that need. When we cannot get enough breath, we panic.
In the dark, we become afraid and seek for light. When it's cold, we try to get warm. When we
stand too near a precipice, fear warns us to step back. When we are damaging our body, pain
urges us to stop. We are reminded by our bodies that reproduction of the species is an ever-pleasant prospect.
This is the natural man; the body loves itself and demands that its needs be met.
Jesus did not imply that anyone had to command you to love yourself; every living creature takes
care of itself, and we partake of that aspect of nature.
Instead, Jesus said: Respond to your neighbor's needs as urgently as you take care of your own.
Not only that, but he said that loving your neighbor was "like unto" the commandment to love
the Lord with all your heart, soul, and mind.
How is loving the Lord like loving our neighbor? To love our neighbor, we must do as the good
Samaritan did: See what our neighbor needs that he cannot do for himself, and provide whatever
is in our power.
What does God need from us? His work and his glory are to bring to pass the immortality and
eternal life of man (Moses 1:9). The Savior's resurrection already took care of the immortality
part; as for eternal life, we cannot save anyone -- that is also the Savior's work, for all who
repent.
What is within our power to do? We can accept the grace of Christ by repenting of our sins,
accepting baptism, and obeying his commandments all the rest of our lives; by making covenants
and keeping them; and by treating other people as Christ showed us and taught us.
Well, will you look at that. Here's where we look after our own needs -- not in the "love your
neighbor" part, but in the "love the Lord" part!
But it's our spiritual needs that God wants us to attend to, not mere self-gratification or self-aggrandizement, as the world would have us believe.
Once we have transformed ourselves by turning to God with our hearts, souls, and minds, what
happens? Having a godly spirit, we turn outward as God turns outward, seeking to help others
receive the same blessings.
We see our neighbor with the compassion that Christ has shown to us. As Christ did, we take
what we have and feed the hungry, heal the sick, share with the poor. And we teach them how to
find the treasures of heaven, which are so much greater than what passes for treasure in the
world.
This is the plain and simple meaning of the words of Christ. There is no hidden message of
selfishness in "love your neighbor as yourself."
Orson Scott Card is the author of the novels Ender's Game, Ender's
Shadow, and Speaker for the Dead, which are widely read by adults and
younger readers, and are increasingly used in schools.
Besides these and other science fiction novels, Card writes contemporary
fantasy (Magic Street,Enchantment,Lost Boys), biblical novels (Stone Tables,Rachel and Leah), the American frontier fantasy series The Tales of Alvin Maker
(beginning with Seventh Son), poetry (An Open Book), and many plays and
scripts.
Card was born in Washington and grew up in California, Arizona, and
Utah. He served a mission for the LDS Church in Brazil in the early 1970s.
Besides his writing, he teaches occasional classes and workshops and directs
plays. He also teaches writing and literature at Southern Virginia University.
Card currently lives in Greensboro, North Carolina, with his wife,
Kristine Allen Card, and their youngest child, Zina Margaret.