"We seldom get into trouble when we speak softly. It is only when we raise our voices that the sparks fly and tiny molehills become great mountains of contention."
We
went to Atlantic City, New Jersey, a few weeks ago. We had never
been there before, and we got a great deal on a hotel, so off we
went. Armed with a full tank of gas and our Google Maps, we were on
our way.
It
is not as though we needed the maps. Pretty much every major city on
the Eastern Seaboard is within spitting distance of I-95. All you
have to do is get on the freeway and go north or south until you
reach your destination. But Fluffy is an organized soul, and he
thoughtfully placed the map above my visor so it would be handy as we
drove.
But
a curious thing happened. After went through Maryland, waved at
Philadelphia, and said hi to Delaware, we saw a sign that told us to
turn right for Atlantic City. This was not what Google Maps told us
to do. Google Maps wanted us to continue on the toll road all the
way through New Jersey.
We
had already paid four dollars and then eight dollars in tolls, all
within a ten-minute time frame. Google Maps wanted us to continue to
pay tolls until we had reached our destination. As the toll-payer in
the family, I was not exactly thrilled with this proposition. So
when we saw the arrow telling us to turn off onto State Road 40 in
New Jersey, I asked Fluffy what he thought of the idea. He thought
it was a good one.
We
immediately knew we had made the right decision when we saw a
gorgeous stand of fruits and vegetables, right inside the New Jersey
state line. I wanted to stop and buy the produce. Fluffy wanted to
stop and take pictures of the produce. We vowed to stop there on our
way back.
Then
we hit upon a puzzling sight. For about ten miles, everything we saw
was “wild west” this and “cowboy” that.
There is a certain part of New Jersey that has a serious identity
crisis, even to having places where you can buy your cowboy boots and
other clothing essentials, and locations where you can attend your
weekly rodeos. Who knew that New Jersey had a secret cowboy
fixation? Yee-haw.
When
we got to Elmer, New Jersey, there was a whole building whose façade
was made of stained glass. It must have been especially interesting
at night, because it was topped by a wreath and Christmas lights.
Next
we saw an old Texaco station, right in the middle of nowhere. It was
just as you would have seen a Texaco station back in the 1930s, I
guess (and I’m guessing because no, I was not
around in the 1930s). There was not a person on the premises.
Nobody was taking tickets. It was just there for people to look at
who might possibly be interested in a relic of days gone past.
The Texaco station came complete with its own vintage outhouse.
Somewhere
along the road we saw a building that used to be something
interesting, but that was on its last legs. Fluffy could spend all
day taking pictures of a building that is about to fall down. It
took great self-restraint for him to spend five minutes at this
ramshackle structure before we continued our journey.
We
passed a home where the owner had dedicated his life to whirligigs.
There were hundreds of them — maybe thousands. Unlike the
person who recreated the Texaco station, the whirligig man was open
for business. He was no doubt disappointed that Fluffy only wanted
to take pictures of a few of his hand-created masterpieces.
Only a few of thousands of whirligigs we did not purchase.
Being
card-carrying Mormons, we had never heard of Saint Padre Pio, a 20th
Century Italian Catholic saint. But there is a shrine to him on
Route 40, and there is actually one of his gloves as a relic at the
shrine. There are benches where worshippers can pray at the shrine,
and we saw several people worshipping at the altar when we were on
our return trip.
You don’t see things like this on the Interstate.
Not
only did we see signs advertising lambs and sheep and pigs and goats
for sale, but we also saw a sign that advertised alpacas that were
available for purchase. Fluffy said we were driving down a
full-service livestock alley.
We
kept noticing that people were lined up to pass us, even though we
were going ten miles over the speed limit. Occasionally Fluffy would
find a place to pull over, and impatient motorists, all of them
younger than we are, would pass us in disgust. Undoubtedly all of
them gave us dirty looks when they passed.
We
realized that we have become exactly the kind of old people we used
to pass on the road with those same looks of disgust. When
did this happen? When did we stop
being those young, impatient people who were always in a hurry to get
places and start being the old people who are more interested in the
journey than the destination?
Frankly,
I like the stage of life we are in now, better.
As
we neared Atlantic City, we saw a rental storage facility unlike any
rental storage facility we had ever seen. This one was decked out to
represent a small town, complete with people and a car dealership.
There was even a truck with a piano roped onto the bed of the truck.
It was amazingly creative.
This fascinating scene disguises a pedestrian storage facility.
A real Model T was parked outside the facility near here.
If you tried driving into this muddy parking area, you’d hit a brick wall.
Even the sharp keys on this piano are flat.
When
we first saw the storage facility, there was a mint green Model T in
perfect condition, sitting out front just as it would have been if it
had been part of the tableau. When we drove back to take pictures of
the scene, it was out for a spin so we missed it. It was a thing of
beauty.
Our
road merged into the road where Google Maps would have taken us
shortly after we passed the storage facility. We only saw one other
curiosity, but it was a doozy. It was a drive-in divorce facility.
You plunk down your money, and four to eight weeks later you are rid
of a pesky husband or wife.
I
have had warts that have taken longer than that to get rid of.
For only $399 you can get rid of a slothful husband or a nagging wife. Such a bargain!
Eventually
we reached our destination. When we saw Ventnor Avenue, we realized
we were in the city that inspired the Monopoly board. We had not
passed GO. We had not paid $200 in tolls on the toll road. We had
done it all without Google Maps, and we were happier for having done
so.
Although we reached Ventnor Avenue, we did not pass GO, and we did not pay $200 in tolls on the toll road.
It’s
always good to have a map when you start on a journey. Many people
get hopelessly lost when they go on a trip without having a map to
guide them to their final destination. It’s good to be
organized when we go through our lives as well.
But
sometimes we enjoy that journey even more when we take a detour and
get off the beaten path — when we travel just for the sake of
appreciating the wonderful world that God and the delightful people
He has made have created for the enjoyment of others.
It
amazes me how often we think we have our lives planned, and God sends
us off on a different direction entirely. When God takes the Google
Maps of our lives and throws them out the window, sit back and enjoy
the ride. He always knows exactly what He is doing.
Kathryn H. Kidd has been writing fiction, nonfiction, and "anything for money" longer than
most of her readers have even been alive. She has something to say on every topic, and the
possibility that her opinions may be dead wrong has never stopped her from expressing them at
every opportunity.
A native of New Orleans, Kathy grew up in Mandeville, Louisiana. She attended Brigham
Young University as a generic Protestant, having left the Episcopal Church when she was eight
because that church didn't believe what she did. She joined The Church of Jesus Christ of
Latter-day Saints as a BYU junior, finally overcoming her natural stubbornness because she
wanted a patriarchal blessing and couldn't get one unless she was a member of the Church. She
was baptized on a Saturday and received her patriarchal blessing two days later.
She married Clark L. Kidd, who appears in her columns as "Fluffy," more than thirty-five
years ago. They are the authors of numerous LDS-related books, the most popular of which is A
Convert's Guide to Mormon Life.
A former managing editor for Meridian Magazine, Kathy moderated a weekly column ("Circle of Sisters") for Meridian until she was derailed by illness in December of 2012. However, her biggest claim to fame is that she co-authored
Lovelock with Orson Scott Card. Lovelock has been translated into Spanish and Polish, which
would be a little more gratifying than it actually is if Kathy had been referred to by her real name
and not "Kathryn Kerr" on the cover of the Polish version.
Kathy has her own website, www.planetkathy.com, where she hopes to get back to writing a weekday blog once she recovers from being dysfunctional. Her entries recount her adventures and misadventures with Fluffy, who heroically
allows himself to be used as fodder for her columns at every possible opportunity.
Kathy spent seven years as a teacher of the Young Women in her ward, until she was recently released. She has not yet gotten used to interacting with the adults, and suspects it may take another seven years. A long-time home teacher with her husband, Clark, they have home taught the same family since 1988. The two of them have been temple workers since 1995, serving in the Washington D.C. Temple.