"We seldom get into trouble when we speak softly. It is only when we raise our voices that the sparks fly and tiny molehills become great mountains of contention."
Recently, the fifth of
the month has had a little bit more significance than it usually has
in the Kidd household. It was December 5 when I first was
incarcerated in the hospital. It was March 5 when I was paroled.
And sandwiched right in the middle of those two auspicious dates was
February 5 — the day when Fluffy was laid off from work.
We were not planning on
Fluffy losing his job. In fact, Fluffy loved his place of
employment. It was in California, which is the perfect location for
a person who lives in Virginia. Fluffy worked at this place for a
little more than a year without ever meeting a single other employee
face to face.
Because he worked from
home, Fluffy got up when he wanted to and worked when he wanted to.
This is not to say he did not work at all. Fluffy has always been
one of those people who can get more work done in fifteen minutes
than other employees can get between start time and lunch. So he
would work and work, and then we would watch a little TV or play
“Ticket to Ride.” Life was good in the Kidd household
when Fluffy had a job.
The way we planned it
was that Fluffy would work at this same place until he was 65 or so,
and then he would see if he could get some contracting work from the
same company and get a little extra paycheck even after he was
retired. That sounded good to both of us.
What we didn’t
count on was that in the interest of corporate profits, the company
would get a new CEO who would fire a goodly amount of the employees.
Employees who had only worked for the company for a year and who
lived all the way across the continent from everyone else were
naturally the first ones to go, and Fluffy showed up at my hospital
room on February 5 without a job to call his own.
People our age define
themselves by their jobs. “I’m a writer,” I may
say. It doesn’t matter that I do precious little writing and
get paid very little. When I do work, writing is what I do
and being a writer is what I am.
The same is true with
Fluffy. “I’m a software designer,” Fluffy tells
people. He may prefer being a photographer to a software designer,
but after a career in the computer business, that’s how he
thinks of himself. Or at least, that’s how he thought of
himself when he had a job.
Recently I have heard
Fluffy describe himself as being semi-retired. He does this the way
a man might approach a crazy shirt he secretly likes, but that other
people may laugh at if he puts it on. When he did it, he looked at
me out of the corner of his eye, as though he were trying to see what
I thought of the crazy shirt.
I’ve always liked
crazy shirts. When Fluffy described himself as “semi-retired,”
I told him, “You might as well go all the way and just be
retired. That sounds more fun than semi-retirement.”
So today, Fluffy is
retired. A job may come out of nowhere that he still may take, once
I don’t need him to babysit me the way I need him now. But
unless that happens, Fluffy is out of the workforce, which is fine
with me.
This does not mean
Fluffy is not working. Recently when he whistles at me, it is likely
to be from the portico behind me. Fluffy has been using a ladder to
get to the top of the portico, where he has been replacing a piece of
rotted wood at an impossible height.
This window is a lot higher up than the close-up indicates.
Yesterday I looked out
one of the windows next to the portico, and there was a ladder on top
of the portico. Fluffy had taken a ladder up there and was getting
leaves out of the gutter on our roof. I’m glad I didn’t
know about it until he was already finished doing the dangerous
stuff.
Job 14:1 says, “Man
that is born of a woman is of few days and full of trouble.” I
don’t know if “trouble” describes Fluffy, but he is
always doing something. He may or may not have retired from a paying
job, but Fluffy will never retire from life.
This is something to be
admired and emulated. I want to be just like Fluffy when I grow up.
Kathryn H. Kidd has been writing fiction, nonfiction, and "anything for money" longer than
most of her readers have even been alive. She has something to say on every topic, and the
possibility that her opinions may be dead wrong has never stopped her from expressing them at
every opportunity.
A native of New Orleans, Kathy grew up in Mandeville, Louisiana. She attended Brigham
Young University as a generic Protestant, having left the Episcopal Church when she was eight
because that church didn't believe what she did. She joined The Church of Jesus Christ of
Latter-day Saints as a BYU junior, finally overcoming her natural stubbornness because she
wanted a patriarchal blessing and couldn't get one unless she was a member of the Church. She
was baptized on a Saturday and received her patriarchal blessing two days later.
She married Clark L. Kidd, who appears in her columns as "Fluffy," more than thirty-five
years ago. They are the authors of numerous LDS-related books, the most popular of which is A
Convert's Guide to Mormon Life.
A former managing editor for Meridian Magazine, Kathy moderated a weekly column ("Circle of Sisters") for Meridian until she was derailed by illness in December of 2012. However, her biggest claim to fame is that she co-authored
Lovelock with Orson Scott Card. Lovelock has been translated into Spanish and Polish, which
would be a little more gratifying than it actually is if Kathy had been referred to by her real name
and not "Kathryn Kerr" on the cover of the Polish version.
Kathy has her own website, www.planetkathy.com, where she hopes to get back to writing a weekday blog once she recovers from being dysfunctional. Her entries recount her adventures and misadventures with Fluffy, who heroically
allows himself to be used as fodder for her columns at every possible opportunity.
Kathy spent seven years as a teacher of the Young Women in her ward, until she was recently released. She has not yet gotten used to interacting with the adults, and suspects it may take another seven years. A long-time home teacher with her husband, Clark, they have home taught the same family since 1988. The two of them have been temple workers since 1995, serving in the Washington D.C. Temple.