"We seldom get into trouble when we speak softly. It is only when we raise our voices that the sparks fly and tiny molehills become great mountains of contention."
In these
post-hospitalization days, my life with Fluffy has taken on a new
routine. We get up at eight a.m. Then I get as dressed as the day’s
activities require me to be dressed. After that, it’s exercise
time.
By “exercise,”
I do not mean a few cursory stretches. On the contrary, Fluffy is my
exercise coach, and he describes his techniques as “enthusiastic.”
I don’t think “enthusiastic” explains my morning
exercise routine. Fluffy is the Imperial Storm Trooper of exercise.
Pain is his friend. Whether he is torturing me with exercise bands
or with weights, when he exercises me I know I have been exercised.
To give you a rough
idea of how rigorous the exercise period is, we’re usually
finished by about 10 a.m. That’s a lot of exercising.
I didn’t realize
how draconian Fluffy’s exercise regime was until we started
going to the physical therapist twice a week. I actually see the
physical therapist for 45 minutes, but the exercising doesn’t
take nearly that long.
You see, the
professional therapists don’t want to wear me out. When they
give me an exercise, they’re likely to have me do ten
repetitions of it before they want me to sit back and rest. I rest
for longer than I exercise. Fluffy has me do the same exercises for
20 reps without resting afterwards, and he’s a lot stricter
about my form than the physical therapists are.
The bottom line is that
the biggest exercise factor I get in my trips to the physical
therapist is that I have to get in and out of the car at home and at
the hospital. This is no easy feat. By the time I’m in the
car I’m covered in spots that are going to be bruises, and I
sit in wonder that my ankle can be contorted so drastically without
actually breaking. Now that’s exercise. Pedaling for
six minutes on an arm bike that I used for 18 minutes back in the
hospital doesn’t even seem worth the effort.
If you were to say we
are wasting our $35 co-pay at the physical therapist’s twice a
week, you would be mistaken. You see, Fluffy absorbs everything the
physical therapist says and does like a sponge. If the physical
therapist has me write the alphabet in the air with a two-pound ball,
Fluffy goes out and buys two two-pound balls so I can do the
exercise in stereo.
This week, the physical
therapist tried without success to get me to stand up and transfer my
hands from the wheelchair to the parallel bars. When I failed, he
said I didn’t have enough upper body strength to do the
transfer. He recommended that Fluffy and I spend a week or two
having me stand up at my wheelchair and transfer my weight from one
hand to the other on the armrests. He said that maybe after a couple
of weeks I would have the strength to move from the wheelchair to the
parallel bars.
The next day, at
the end of Fluffy’s exercise program, he had me sit in front of
my walker and stand up at the wheelchair. Within five minutes, I was
standing with the walker, without ever doing what the physical
therapist recommended we spend the next week or two doing. Fluffy’s
exercise program gave me the strength and the courage to do something
that the physical therapist thought was completely beyond my grasp.
The more I think about
it, the more I am convinced that life is like Fluffy’s exercise
program. God gives us challenges throughout our lives. Some of
those challenges are so hard that we may be tempted to say, “What
in the world were You thinking?”
Eventually we get
through those trials, and when we do He throws something even harder
at us. If we accept the challenge, we eventually overcome the
adversity and are stronger for having done so.
We don’t have to
accept those trials. God gives us the agency to refuse to learn from
the ordeals we are given. And truth be told, if you think that
there’s going to be a harder challenge right behind this one,
it’s pretty tempting to refuse to take on that first test. But
if we do accept them and prevail, we will grow one step at a time
into the people the Lord intends us to be. We’ll be stronger,
and more competent, and more courageous. All it takes is to face
every encounter head on, doing the best we can do — and
sometimes even better than we think we can possibly do.
We are going to
continue going to the physical therapist. After all, I get a lot of
exercise getting in and out of the car, and Fluffy gets a lot of
fodder for my exercise program. Just today we did more than a half
dozen exercises that we hadn’t done a week ago. All of them
were motivated by our trusty physical therapist.
But make no mistake
about it. It’s not the physical therapist who is responsible
for the progress I am making. It’s Imperial Storm Trooper
Fluffy — who, like God, loves me enough to cause me pain, and
who inspires me to do things I didn’t even know I was capable
of doing.
Kathryn H. Kidd has been writing fiction, nonfiction, and "anything for money" longer than
most of her readers have even been alive. She has something to say on every topic, and the
possibility that her opinions may be dead wrong has never stopped her from expressing them at
every opportunity.
A native of New Orleans, Kathy grew up in Mandeville, Louisiana. She attended Brigham
Young University as a generic Protestant, having left the Episcopal Church when she was eight
because that church didn't believe what she did. She joined The Church of Jesus Christ of
Latter-day Saints as a BYU junior, finally overcoming her natural stubbornness because she
wanted a patriarchal blessing and couldn't get one unless she was a member of the Church. She
was baptized on a Saturday and received her patriarchal blessing two days later.
She married Clark L. Kidd, who appears in her columns as "Fluffy," more than thirty-five
years ago. They are the authors of numerous LDS-related books, the most popular of which is A
Convert's Guide to Mormon Life.
A former managing editor for Meridian Magazine, Kathy moderated a weekly column ("Circle of Sisters") for Meridian until she was derailed by illness in December of 2012. However, her biggest claim to fame is that she co-authored
Lovelock with Orson Scott Card. Lovelock has been translated into Spanish and Polish, which
would be a little more gratifying than it actually is if Kathy had been referred to by her real name
and not "Kathryn Kerr" on the cover of the Polish version.
Kathy has her own website, www.planetkathy.com, where she hopes to get back to writing a weekday blog once she recovers from being dysfunctional. Her entries recount her adventures and misadventures with Fluffy, who heroically
allows himself to be used as fodder for her columns at every possible opportunity.
Kathy spent seven years as a teacher of the Young Women in her ward, until she was recently released. She has not yet gotten used to interacting with the adults, and suspects it may take another seven years. A long-time home teacher with her husband, Clark, they have home taught the same family since 1988. The two of them have been temple workers since 1995, serving in the Washington D.C. Temple.