Anyone
who knows me remotely well can attest to the fact that I am very
serious about my food. I’m not a food snob
or anything—I just really like food.
Particularly good food. Particularly good, foreign
food. Cooking is a hobby—or it was, anyway, before I left home
and had to cook for myself for real. Half of the reason I was so
excited to move into an apartment-style dorm was the fact that I’d
get to cook for myself. To put this idiosyncrasy of mine into
perspective, I shall illustrate with this example: over Christmas
break, my mom and I went to a thrift store and bought a crockpot that
has so far enabled me to make delicious hot chocolate, roast beef,
and some excellent soups – foods of the gods in
single-digit-degrees Provo. I’m pretty sure I was more excited
about that old little crockpot than about my Christmas gifts.
Because
Utah is in America, I didn’t really think that grocery shopping
might be any different here than it is in Virginia. However, since
moving to Provo, I have made the very startling discovery that not
everyone in America eats the same things. The first week I was here,
I made shepherd’s pie, something I thought was pretty
universal, and found that a couple of my roommates had never heard of
it before. They aren’t the only ones who’ve had weird
food experiences here at BYU; I’ve had my share as well. For
one thing, people here seem to be under the strange impression that
carbonated drinks are called pop,
not
soda;for
another, they like to put bacon in places where it shouldn’t be
– in
potato soup, for example, or in the calzones in
the dining hall. And I won’t
even mention
the bacon-topped maple doughnuts.
The
thing is, even though I figured I was very culturally seasoned,
coming from the DC area where there is a whole mix of different
nationalities (and foods), I still find myself experiencing new
things culturally – with Utah and its winter frigidity, Utah
grocery stores and their frustrating dearth of normal ravioli, and
with people I meet here who hail from Utah to Idaho to California to
whole other countries.
It
can get easy for some people to become statist and believe that the
state they
come from is the best (obviously, such people have never been to
Virginia). Anyone who is homesick will probably tend to bestow their
place of origin with any and all virtues in comparison to where they
are now. I'm no exception. But I still find it interesting to talk to
people about their childhoods, the family traditions they grew up
with, and the places they came from. It’s making me take into
account something I already knew, but never seriously considered:
that there is still so much diversity wherever you go, even if it
doesn’t look like it on the surface (and believe me, here in
Provo, it doesn’t much look like it at all).
It’s
one of the better parts of my learning to live in the real world –
of making decisions for myself, and, more importantly, learning
things for myself, meeting new people for myself and judging for
myself what
to think of them.
Being
in college doesn’t always feel like living in the real world,
the adult
world. Sometimes it does – especially when I meet and make
friends with students who look
my age but are married, or are married and expecting a baby, or are
married and have little kids. I really start feeling like an adult
then. But sometimes, it doesn’t feel like the real world; it
feels like I live in Happy Mormon Dream Land, in a bubble and
separated from all that goes on outside.
My
mom and dad always used to tell me that college is freedom, and they
were right about that. For one thing, there is so much less dramathan
there was in high school; it’s absolutely glorious. For
another, when and where you go to class is entirely up to you. You
can schedule all your classes in the afternoon and not have to wake
up until twelve; you can hand yourself a four-day weekend every week
if you schedule your classes just right; and most of the time, the
professors don’t really care whether you come to class or do
your homework. I could fly off and spend two days in Disney World for
all they care. It is freedom at its absolute finest.
Maybe
the real world doesn’t always involve quite
this
much freedom; but there's no mistaking that it does involve the
responsibility that comes with that freedom, which I’m learning
more and more means less insisting that things be your way and more
compromise and adaptation.
Which,
in my case, means learning to cook without getting stuff from
international supermarkets or having certain special ingredients that
my mom’s brother brings her from Italy; it means accepting that
if I buy a food-something from the Creamery, it’ll probably
have some unnecessary bacon lurking in it somewhere; and it means
listening to others sometimes instead of always thinking that the way
I do things is the onlyright
way.
I'm
not always very good at this, at any of it; but being at BYU is
giving me plenty of practice, and I'm learning to do it
unconsciously. Because in the end, it will be being able to see the
good things in an unfamiliar place that will be my greatest strength.
Especially in the real world.
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