Sometimes
when the Lord wants to tell us something, He has to take the indirect
approach.
There
was a good man in our ward, years ago, who was very wrapped up in his
work; he was a salesman, self-employed and pretty successful. “Jay”
had a good marriage, a decent bass voice and a love of music, was
good with people, and his family was raised. He attended all his
meetings, sang in the ward and stake choirs, and served where he was
called. He was part of the faithful, ordinary backbone of the
Church.
He
attended a fireside or heard a sacrament meeting where the subject
was missionary work, and the conviction came to him that he needed to
go talk to the bishop about a mission. I don’t know if he and
his wife had discussed the possibility of serving a mission together
someday or not, but he certainly wasn’t thinking about it right
then.
His
wife was startled but willing to pursue the idea, and he, somewhat
surprised that he was doing this, but absolutely sure that it was the
right thing to do, figured out that he could retire, settle his
affairs and go. So they met with the bishop and found out what it
would take to begin the process.
One
of the first requirements was a physical. Now, this was a man who
hadn’t been to a doctor in years. He wasn’t sick and
never saw a reason to take the time. Now he had to make an
appointment and go through the process, but for the sake of following
the Lord’s direction he didn’t hesitate.
What
everyone expected to be a slam-dunk, fill out the papers, get out the
stethoscope and draw the blood incident, wasn’t. The doctor
found something to concern him, and the follow-up tests showed that
he had cancer. No pain; no symptoms; no idea.
If
we were writing stories, we would now make it so that intervention
was in time, treatment was successful, and with some months’
delay he and his wife were joyously and miraculously able to go serve
their mission in place XYZ. That story happens, gratefully and
actually, in some cases, but not in this one.
Thirty
years ago, there were a lot fewer treatment avenues for various
cancers. Today there might be more that could be done, but there
might not. Why this mission prompting, when it was impossible? Did
the Lord abandon him, or toy with him?
No,
he testified. His direction was, “Go talk to your bishop about
a mission.” He assumed, as everyone did, that this would
include the logical outcome of serving
a mission, but Heavenly Father already knew that he would not be able
to serve. That didn’t matter. The Lord knew that if He
prompted him to get a check-up, Jay would procrastinate and not go,
even if he acknowledged the direction. But the direction to go see
the bishop would automatically lead to that check-up, and would be
followed as a matter of faith, even though this good man was not
planning on this mission idea — he would respond in faith and
obedience, to transform his idea of what he should be doing in his
life right now. That, in fact, was one of the blessings of this
experience.
Jay
had the knowledge that when called, he would obey, because he did
obey. Though he tended to be busy with his work and sometimes put
off other important things, he turned his plans around and responded
with faith when the Lord spoke to him.
Since
his time on this earth was going to be coming to its close, he had
the blessing of finding that out in advance. He had the gift of
time, to prepare himself, to put aside things that mattered less, to
be with his family, and to set his financial affairs in order for his
wife.
I
suspect there was a mission call pending, for which he became
spiritually prepared; it just wasn’t here. The gospel is
preached by the priesthood on both sides of the veil. How many souls
were ready for the prison doors to be opened as their temple work was
done, because he was sent to teach them? His wife is with him now,
and maybe the numbers are still growing.
Marian J. Stoddard was born in Washington, D.C., and grew up in its Maryland suburbs. Her
father grew up in Carson City, Nevada, and her mother in Salt Lake City, so she was always
partly a Westerner at heart, and she ended up raising her family in Washington State. Her family
took road trips all over the United States and Canada, so there were lots of adventures.
The adventures of music, literature, and art were also valued and pursued. Playing tourist always
included the local museums as well as historical sites and places of natural beauty. Discussions
at home, around the dinner table or working in the kitchen, could cover politics, philosophy, or
poetry, with the perspective of the gospel underlying all. Words and ideas, and testimony and
service, were the family currency.
Marian graduated from Winston Churchill High School in Potomac, Maryland, and attended the
University of Utah as the recipient of the Ralph Hardy Memorial Scholarship, where she was
graduated with honors, receiving a B.A. in English. She also met the love of her life, a law
student, three weeks after her arrival; she jokes that she had to marry him because her mother
always wanted a tenor in the family. (She sings second soprano.) They were married two years
later and have six children and six grandchildren (so far). She treasures her family, her friends,
and her opportunities to serve.
Visit Marian at her blog, greaterthansparrows. You can contact her at
bloggermarian@gmail.com.
Marian and her husband live in Tacoma, Washington. Together they teach those who are
preparing to go to the temple for the first time, and she also teaches a Stake Relief Society
Institute class.